This is only my 2nd post here. First was about moving out of my BSC narc mom's house and how to tell her and get my stuff out of her storage unit. (Which by the way went fairly well, I'll write an update soon) Anywho, I'm officially out into an apartment with my LO but I decided to spend Xmas Eve and Xmas morning with my mom and Sdad since the move went so well (silly unicorn moment). My BF was also there and after I put LO to bed, we were talking to my mom about what she had bought LO. So she starts in on some pretty regular stuff - books, clothing, and toys. She then says "Oh yeah and I bought her an iPhone 5S so she can call me now that you guys have moved." My BF and I just laughed it off because we really didn't believe her - LO is 1 year old, who in their right mind would buy a baby an iPhone?? Well clearly I answered my own question because my mom is absolutely out of her mind.
She goes upstairs, and pulls out a brand new iPhone 5S from a gift bag with my DD's name on it!!! We were shocked and I was literally speechless. She must have thought it was a good thing because she immediately said "Don't worry, I'm paying for the monthly bill and now she can download all those baby apps that I put on my phone that you're too cheap to buy for her on your phone." I can't even tell you how LIVID I was. First of all - SHE'S 1 YEAR OLD! She doesn't even know how to actively call someone or download anything! Second of all - Since when is it EVER appropriate to purchase a phone for someone else's child without consulting the parents first??? I would NEVER buy someone else's child that type of gift, whether the kid is 7 months, 7 or 17. I would NEVER overstep like that.
Well I let her have it. I told her she was out of her mind buying that for my 1 year old, that it was an epic waste of money and perhaps the most ridiculous display of wealth I've ever seen and that the only way my LO was ever getting a phone was when I, her mother, feel it's time. Cue CBF, and a victim act about not knowing what is appropriate to buy "Myyyyyyyyy Granddaughter". So I said, "hmmmm, let's think here. If you wanted to go blow $400 on nothing, why not donate that money to a charity in LO's name? Or take that money, go buy a bunch more toys and clothes and give that to children in need? But to buy not only an age-inappropriate gift but also one that is inappropriate for anyone who is not a child's parent to buy just to say YOU bought her her first phone and try to stomp all over MY rules as a parent is 100% delusional." BF agreed with me about it being a ridiculous gift and told my mom so. She then launched into a tirade about not having to listen to everything I say and being able to buy my LO whatever she wants without needing my permission. I told her if she ever tried to pull some BS like that again and set my child up for a lifetime of entitlement, she would never spend another occasion with us ever again. Needless to say, she never gave LO the iPhone and returned it to the store yesterday.