So I posted a few days ago about whether I was being too mean to my mom when I was texting her about spending time and expectations with DD when we moved by her. I was going to be staying in my step dads place rent free. I wanted to give some BG on my mom. I love her but she has issues. She has clung to me pretty bad since I've became an adult and moved out. Very needy, coming to my house unannounced all the time and wont leave until I answer. Will call my phone over and over an then my place of employment over and over to tell me unimportant things that could've waited. When I ask her to stop being so overbearing she freaks out. When i moved out of my home state with dh, she admitted herself to a psych unit and said she was suicidal.
Well I was worried that this stay would blow up in my face and she wouldn't respect boundaries. And my DH and I have decided not to go as a result. We have Found an affordable apartment in his home state. I have just broke the news to my mom and she is making me feel like shit. I don't know what to do, she was really excited to meet dd but I decided I cant subject her to my moms instability. She has said in texts that she doesn't know what she is going to do with all the stuff she bought dd now. I will Paste a few direct quotes in response to my decision not to love there.
"Still don't know what to do about the 2 trash bags of toys "
"I hope all your wishes and dreams come true. You have a very happy life with (DH) and (DD).And hope you find the best babysitter ever for (DD)! I suppose now I'll be looking for a job to keep my mind occupied. Hope I can find something! Take good care of (DD)I love you."
"So sorry I've let you down"
"Heads up. I deleted my fb account so you're not bothered by my posts, and I'm not upset seeing stuff about (DD) cuz she'll really never know me"
I told her I decided not to come because I don't think it would e a good idea given or past relationship problems an that I still want to frequently visit and have her be around Dd. just not in the compacity she was expecting (multiple times a week.)
Well I was worried that this stay would blow up in my face and she wouldn't respect boundaries. And my DH and I have decided not to go as a result. We have Found an affordable apartment in his home state. I have just broke the news to my mom and she is making me feel like shit. I don't know what to do, she was really excited to meet dd but I decided I cant subject her to my moms instability. She has said in texts that she doesn't know what she is going to do with all the stuff she bought dd now. I will Paste a few direct quotes in response to my decision not to love there.
"Still don't know what to do about the 2 trash bags of toys "
"I hope all your wishes and dreams come true. You have a very happy life with (DH) and (DD).And hope you find the best babysitter ever for (DD)! I suppose now I'll be looking for a job to keep my mind occupied. Hope I can find something! Take good care of (DD)I love you."
"So sorry I've let you down"
"Heads up. I deleted my fb account so you're not bothered by my posts, and I'm not upset seeing stuff about (DD) cuz she'll really never know me"
I told her I decided not to come because I don't think it would e a good idea given or past relationship problems an that I still want to frequently visit and have her be around Dd. just not in the compacity she was expecting (multiple times a week.)