I've posted once on here a while back... and now I'm back for more. I lurk through this advice board often, and now I post again.
My husbands family is very close. Its not strange that he and his family (he has 2 siblings) will pack in to one hotel room and have a great old time. I personally think it's weird. I have had many issues with my overbearing MIL (she drives me crazy), but I just like to have my own space. There is a lot of background to my feelings of dislike but I can assure my feelings are VERY warranted. I also know that I have a big duh who doesn't help any of these issues. Anyway, MIL wants to plan a hotel night in a city a few hours away for her birthday. She wants to get a 3 queen bed room, for her and FIL, 3 kids, their significant others (us included) and my LO (4 month old). That's 9 people, to 3 beds and 2 cots. No thanks. Not to mention I ebf, and we co sleep. Of course, my husband thinks this is great, because he is cheap (so he saves money on the room) and loves these special times with his family (did I mention he is 30). So of course, I can't go the night they are planning... so MIL tries to get husband to go without me, and take LO (ummmm no chance in hell). I also tell them that we would be getting our own room, and everyone gets their nose out of joint (including my dh). My dh argues that if it was my family we would (yes I'd probably be more inclined, but my mother also would never suggest having a 9 person adult slumber party, and we would all have our own rooms), and that I also resist when it comes to his family (which is half true, but it's just because of my issues with my MIL). He thinks that I need to be more easy going. My defense was I ebf, lo is 4 months and sleeps several times a day, and goes down early at night, and it's unfair tto him and everyone else with the noise of that many people, and honestly I'm just not into it. I wish my dh would not always assume my feelings were a personal attack towards his mother or family. He truly thinks it's normal for all these adults to slumber party together. I don't even know what to say at this point.
My husbands family is very close. Its not strange that he and his family (he has 2 siblings) will pack in to one hotel room and have a great old time. I personally think it's weird. I have had many issues with my overbearing MIL (she drives me crazy), but I just like to have my own space. There is a lot of background to my feelings of dislike but I can assure my feelings are VERY warranted. I also know that I have a big duh who doesn't help any of these issues. Anyway, MIL wants to plan a hotel night in a city a few hours away for her birthday. She wants to get a 3 queen bed room, for her and FIL, 3 kids, their significant others (us included) and my LO (4 month old). That's 9 people, to 3 beds and 2 cots. No thanks. Not to mention I ebf, and we co sleep. Of course, my husband thinks this is great, because he is cheap (so he saves money on the room) and loves these special times with his family (did I mention he is 30). So of course, I can't go the night they are planning... so MIL tries to get husband to go without me, and take LO (ummmm no chance in hell). I also tell them that we would be getting our own room, and everyone gets their nose out of joint (including my dh). My dh argues that if it was my family we would (yes I'd probably be more inclined, but my mother also would never suggest having a 9 person adult slumber party, and we would all have our own rooms), and that I also resist when it comes to his family (which is half true, but it's just because of my issues with my MIL). He thinks that I need to be more easy going. My defense was I ebf, lo is 4 months and sleeps several times a day, and goes down early at night, and it's unfair tto him and everyone else with the noise of that many people, and honestly I'm just not into it. I wish my dh would not always assume my feelings were a personal attack towards his mother or family. He truly thinks it's normal for all these adults to slumber party together. I don't even know what to say at this point.