My co-worker with horrible SIL problems introduced me to babycenter and dwil a few weeks ago. Ever since then I've been lurking, but worked up the courage today to make an account and post!
DH and I have been married for 3 years and had our son back in September. I never really had much of a relationship with my MIL. We really only visited once every two months and holidays. We were never really close, just made small talk here and there.
My MIL was always respectful of me until my son was born. I only allowed my husband and mother to be in the room while I gave birth. When we explained this to MIL, she threw a fit. She told DH that she wanted to be the first one to hold my son because her mother did that for her first son (BIL) when he was born. Of course we told her NO! A couple weeks later, we had my baby shower. She knitted me a baby blanket with a broken heart on it told me that's how she felt about being "kept away from her grand baby after his birth". She truly believes that the first seconds of a baby's life should be spent in the arms of their grandmother. My mom, being the awesome woman she is, told her "I'm be sure to hold him then". Joking of course.
Because of this, we did not contact MIL when I went to the hospital, and we registered privately.
My DH called and let her know after my son was born (while we were still in the hospital) and said we would call when she could come up. She came to visit on the second day at the hospital, and was surprisingly polite.
Everything was fine with MIL until my son was around 2 months old. We allowed her to visit every other weekend for one day. One day while visiting, she asked if I would pump a bottle so she could feed LO. I said no, and she pouted. Later during the visit, she asked when I was going to start pumping so she could take LO over night. We both let her know that overnight visits wouldn't be happening now, if at all.
Last weekend while visiting, she took our calendar off the wall, brought it to us, and circled a weekend in bright red marker. She then TOLD us that she would be taking my son that weekend, so be prepared! She said she needed time alone to bond. WTF! I told her "My son is not something we are sharing. If you want to play mommy, I can point you in the direction of the nearest Toys R US and you can buy a doll." I then told her to leave. My DH said I took it too far, but acknowledges that she was in the wrong. Now I feel like shit, was I wrong?
DH and I have been married for 3 years and had our son back in September. I never really had much of a relationship with my MIL. We really only visited once every two months and holidays. We were never really close, just made small talk here and there.
My MIL was always respectful of me until my son was born. I only allowed my husband and mother to be in the room while I gave birth. When we explained this to MIL, she threw a fit. She told DH that she wanted to be the first one to hold my son because her mother did that for her first son (BIL) when he was born. Of course we told her NO! A couple weeks later, we had my baby shower. She knitted me a baby blanket with a broken heart on it told me that's how she felt about being "kept away from her grand baby after his birth". She truly believes that the first seconds of a baby's life should be spent in the arms of their grandmother. My mom, being the awesome woman she is, told her "I'm be sure to hold him then". Joking of course.
Because of this, we did not contact MIL when I went to the hospital, and we registered privately.
My DH called and let her know after my son was born (while we were still in the hospital) and said we would call when she could come up. She came to visit on the second day at the hospital, and was surprisingly polite.
Everything was fine with MIL until my son was around 2 months old. We allowed her to visit every other weekend for one day. One day while visiting, she asked if I would pump a bottle so she could feed LO. I said no, and she pouted. Later during the visit, she asked when I was going to start pumping so she could take LO over night. We both let her know that overnight visits wouldn't be happening now, if at all.
Last weekend while visiting, she took our calendar off the wall, brought it to us, and circled a weekend in bright red marker. She then TOLD us that she would be taking my son that weekend, so be prepared! She said she needed time alone to bond. WTF! I told her "My son is not something we are sharing. If you want to play mommy, I can point you in the direction of the nearest Toys R US and you can buy a doll." I then told her to leave. My DH said I took it too far, but acknowledges that she was in the wrong. Now I feel like shit, was I wrong?