Just a warning, this post is FULL of fail.
BG: In 2008 I got my first "grown up" job and had to move across the state. My mother found this cute little house and bought it for me to live in, since the mortgage was going to be much less than rent. The agreement was that I would live in the house and pay the mortgage, take care of things as they came up, and maintain the property.
I met DH in 2010 and he moved in. We got married and stayed in the house. He worked on the house, but nothing major (insulation, caulking, putting in flower beds for me, removing some lilacs, painting a few rooms, putting up a closet in one room, that kind of stuff) over the 4 years we have lived there.
FF to this year. We bought a really nice house down the street, and my mom put the house on the market. We were hit with a ton of extra, unexpected closing costs, and had to borrow just over a thousand dollars from my mom to close. The agreement there was that we would pay her back when we got our tax returns. My mom then gets divorced and decides that she doesn't want to sell the house and wants to move there. SUCKS for us because we don't want to be so close to her, but there is really nothing I can do.
DH decided today that he didn't want to pay my mom back because we have "sweat equity" in the house, and we shouldn't have to pay her because the house she is moving into is nicer than the house she bought. He is saying that she is trying to come between our marriage (which I really don't have any doubt about and have agreed with him on. I am working on that), and that I am taking her side because I want to pay her back and don't agree with him.
So am I being a DuW by insisting that we pay her back? I just want to pay her back and be done with it. I know he is BEC with my mom, and I totally get it, as I am as well, but we still have some things in that other house, so he has to see her quite often to pick them up (I am home with LO while he is doing this)
My goal is to be LC with her, but I dont really feel like I can do that until we repay the loan
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Am I Being a DuW?
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