This is such a minor thing that I feel silly posting here where others are dealing with much more serious matters, but I fear that this could be a warning sign of thing to come, so I need some outside perspective on whether I'm just being oversensitive or not.
How do you deal with gifts you dislike? Obviously I wouldn't ever tell someone how to spend their money (or time, in the case of homemade gifts). Most of the time, if I disliked something, I'd just not use it or return it.
But MOO is coming to visit after LO's birth, and I feel obligated.
MOO's style and mine clash. For instance, I'm not into really girly clothes. MOO is. Every outfit she's bought for LO (not many, just four plus some towels and blankets) is super girly. She also crocheted a big pink blanket and flowery newborn cap. I know I'll feel obligated to dress DD in those things when MOO visits, even if I dislike them. Clothes aren't going to harm DD's health, so maybe I'm being stupid, but at the same time, I don't want my DD being treated like MOO's doll.
I think my sensitivity comes from earlier in the pregnancy when MOO wanted to buy us "something big that we really needed." She sent us pics of a stroller that she liked, a crib that she liked, etc. When we told her what we liked and put together a registry, she discarded it all. Basically she only wanted to buy something she picked out herself. Because "Grandma loves to shop."
I feel like I'm just being a bitch and should be happy my MOO cares enough about my kid to buy and make her gifts, but I also know that MOO has been sad since my YB was old enough to go off to college, and I'm fearful MOO is going to try to fill whatever needs she has with my DD.
MOO and I are not very close. We talk once or twice a month on the phone and see one another once or twice a year, though she's always saying she wants to see me more often. I'm a FTM, and DD will be the first GC. MOO has been thrilled since we announced the birth. But she refers to herself in the third person as Grandma a lot, and she's made several comments that make me feel like she's more interested in being seen as GMOTY than actually being part of my or DD's lives. (She sent me a text one day that bascially said she was sad I hadn't called her over the weekend because her friends at work always ask her stuff about me on Monday and she didn't have anything to say to them. 
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I'd like a closer relationship with my MOO, but she's never really been interested in having real conversations with me. She likes to think of her children as her little girls/boy even though we're all adults. I think the shopping thing is just another sign to me that she really doesn't know who I am.
Am I being oversensitive? Should I see these things as a warning sign that worse may be on the horizon? And should I feel guilty that I don't want my DD to wear a flowery crocheted hat so MOO can take cute pics?
ETA: Sorry for the novel. I really didn't expect it to be this long!