ok, so i have posted about how my mom and sis are a bit ecclectic in their behavior, dress and expectations of others.... we have extremely LC because i don't agree that it's best for my LOs to be that close to them. well.... apparently, my mom was following my former BIL around the mall pointing at him and saying, "judgment, judgment,: or something equally inappropriate and inflammatory of that nature. he happened to run into me later and made a point of venting his frustrations to me. he even went so far as to say he should have called security on her, people were asking him if he felt uncomfortable, blah, blah.
i listened to him rant for awhile and i finally said, "i am sorry you went through that. unfortunately, i am not responsible for her behavior and have little to no influence on how she behaves." his response was, " but you can talk to her! let her know it's not cool!"
my mom insisted on telling me she did not say what she was accused of and that whatever had transpired was between her and XBIL and not for me to concern myself with. she even went so far as to imply that he was upset over something petty and imaginary without acknowledging guilt or admitting to her involvement.
sad to say, i cannot talk to her. our relationship--if you can call it that--is built on fond memories and a sense of hurt and obligation. i wasn't about to tell BIL that, however. he and i while not adversarial are on :opposing" sides with regards to the divorce, etc.
am i wrong for being angry at the two of them for putting me in the middle of this?