My DH thinks I care too much about everything...I am upset that I wasn't invited to my BIL wife's baby shower. (We don't get invited to anything his two brothers families do, actually) She and the other SIL posted pictures on Instagram and FB (I am friends with them on both) so of course this irriates me even more.
The other SIL (not pregnant) and MIL apparently were the ones who hosted the baby shower for SIL. While church people, friends and family were invited I sadly being the SIL was not. Maybe because we live out of state? We have lived in the same state, just miles away and still weren't invited for a party (that all DH's other silbings were at).
My DH said that they have always excluded him from things, but think more so being he isn't "as christian" as they are.
I had my baby shower and invited several of his side and no one came. Only my family and friends. I understand come couldn't make it and let me know. Some also send gifts which were not excepted but greatly appreciated.
So SIL(the one who hosted) posted a picture of her, her daughter, and SIL and wrote "Since "daughters name" is the youngest thought it was only right to get her with "SIL" Now I'm even more ticked off, my daughter is the youngest as of kids. So I commented in a mad rage "Alexandria (my daughter) would be the youngest, sadly however I was not invited". Was it wrong? Most likely.
About 15 minutes later I get a message from BIL saying "April, this is BIL. I am sending some emails but received a notification that you had commented on a picture. Now, I do not know the first thing about baby showers and invitations, nor do I care to learn, but if you have an issue regarding invitations, please call the person individually (whoever that may be). Please do not use Facebook as a tool to vent your frustration for the public to see. I have many of my high school students do that, and I tell them the same thing. If you must use Facebook from fear of calling personally, please send a direct message. Again, I am writing this not knowing the story behind the invitations, and I am not even slightly upset. Just an observation and suggestion. There is no need to explain the situation to me. Please contact whomever you think should hear your comments. This will diminish the possibility of built up bitterness between family members. Thank you, and I hope things are going well for you guys! Please tell DH I said hello. Miss you guys and take care :)"
I just responded "Thank you BIL, I will. Take care."
Now my DH is awake so I explained what happened, he's kinda mad because he thinks I shouldn't of posted that (I have since deleted it). But thinks I need to just keep my mouth shut and get over it. I just can't.
Should I contact SIL and MIL who hosted or go right to SIL herself? Or should I just blow it off?