I've never posted on this board before but I could use some advice. I'm honestly not sure if I'm being selfish or if my feelings are ok.
My DH and I have been married 9 years. My FOO live out of state and we spend most holidays with his family. There are a lot of May birthdays (mine included) in the family. We tradionally have a lunch/early dinner to celebrate everyone's birthday and Mother's Day on Mother's Day. This has never bothered me (much) before.
This year I am a mother and really just want to spend the day with my DH and LO. I feel selfish because I am not the first to have a baby (SIL has an almost 2 yr. old.) I suggested maybe we could do a lunch on the Saturday before Mother's Day to DH, but he is a social butterfly thinks everything is great fun and why would we want to mess with a good thing?
Here's why: Easter was a miserable disaster because of LO's missed naps while we were over there for lunch. (No, he does not sleep in a pack n' play, carseat, or baby carrier. He's a toughie when it comes to sleep.) We attempted to get him to nap in the guest room pack n' play but it failed. We left early and got some grief (just a little). LO misses 2 naps on Sunday events because we go to church in the morning (messes with nap 1) and then lunch messes with nap 2.
Also some more BG (Trigger): Mother's Day has always been hard for me because my own mother died from cancer when I was 14. I usually cry and watch home videos until it's time to head over to MIL's. I just was hoping maybe I can get past that and focus on LO this year. (End Trigger)
Thoughts? I will probably end up going because I hate to rock the boat.