Today was my LO's first birthday. My MIL invited us to have it at her house. I thought that was a good idea since we live in a 1BR apartment, so there's not much room here. LO was basically in my MIL's arms the whole 8 hours we were there. She seems to miss him. She fed him breakfast, and lunch. She stuffed his face FULL of food. In my head, I'm thinking "that is WAY too much." Bur she has this phrase that shuts me up every time. I say "I think he's full, try not to over feed him." and she says "ah, it's okay.". I don't know what about that phrase does this to me, but I shrug and pretend everything is fine. Later, for lunch, and the big cake ceremony, she keeps feeding him outrageous amounts of food, and worse, outrageous amounts of cake. Before the party she asks me what I'm going to bring (it's kind of a pot-luck food situation), and I tell her I'll make the cake. Later she tells get daughter to bring cake, too! So we have two cakes, kind of awkward, and the daughters is store bought. I look at the packaging and it has every plasticky, non-food ingredient known to man, which my little one is sensitive to. I ask, as politely as I can, to only let the little one have my cake, and she says "ah, it's okay." so again I shrug it off. She serves the little one a slice of both cakes. We leave shortly after, come home, and the little one gets really bad diarrhea, shortly followed by the worst diaper rash he's ever had. After the diarrhea shows its ugly head, I talk with my DH and ask him to back me up with his mother, and he's very willing to oblige. The problem is that we've had that exact conversation before, and it just never happens. Advice needed: do I just need to set some ground rules with her? Anything? We run into this problem over and over again. What should I do?!
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