So this happened. Background, DH and I have been married for almost 4 months and his family is super close...too close. They were NOT happy about the baby of the family getting married.
DH has been feeling sick but refused to let me help him out. He didn't want me taking care of him, getting him food, bringing him medicine, anything. I decided to just respect his wishes--if he doesn't want me to help, maybe it makes him feel uncomfortable. But then yesterday afternoon MIL showed up at our door. (She doesn't like me at all, and has made PA remarks about me stealing him away, but DH is so attached to his parents...we have fought a ton in our marriage about how much time to spend with his family. He wants to go 4+ times a week to his mom's house. When I say I don't want to and that we are our OWN family, he cries and I feel bad and so of course we end up going.)
Anyway, so she shows up at my door and I let her in because she had some soup for DH. I should have just taken the soup, or NOT taken the soup, and shut the door, but I let her in. She immediately started fussing over DH and talking about how sick "her baby" is. And he let her! He was insisting on doing everything himself until she came over and started taking care of him. Then she took me by my arm, lead me to the door of the apartment, and sort of pushed me out and said, "Why don't you go grab us some dinner, and then go visit with a friend until bed time? I've got it taken care of here." And she shut the door on me!
I was so mad, I DID go out and pick up dinner...for me and my DH. Then I came home and when I did MIL acted like she couldn't wait to rush me out again. So I told her that DH is MY husband and that husband trumps son. I told her that I'm the wife and I need to be taking care of him, and if not me then no one. She made a comment about how selfish that was, but then left.
I keep telling DH that we need to move HOURS away from his family because right now we're only 10 minutes, maybe less, away from them, but he refuses. She keeps butting into our relationship and trying to get me to leave all the time. Any time she can have with her son and me out of the picture, she tries to shove me out. I feel like I've been direct...I don't know what to do now.