vomiting and passing out. Why you or your llama may ask....
Textinitis? Truth Hurtsticulosus?
Well whatever illness it is. It was supposedly triggered because of this text:
DH:First,Things will never be the same, my family was targeted with hateful words that can't be forgotten. I nor DW have never said anything along those lines to disrespect or disown you guys. Second, I am not keeping my children away from you. You guys chose your actions and words to cut them out of your lives. I don't know what can be said or done or if things can ever be mended. I have made my peace and moved on.
Mil text DH first:How long will this go on? I can't live like this any longer! Please talk to me!
Short BG: Mil, Fil and Sil are CO because they are assholes. Have been for 10+years (especially mil). They were big boundary stompers. They stopped by uninvited multiple times, tried to co-parent our DKs, cut ODS hair with zero parental permission, took ODS to store with no carseat without parental knowledge one time (when I was a doormat), mil constantly made passive agressive comments, played favorites (favoring other GKs over ours), demanded frequent visits, got pissed and blew up when we put them on LC. The straw that broke the camel's back was Fil's last words to DH disowning him. Fil: "Your no son of mine anymore!, Fuck you and fuck your wife!, Now you can go be a Mexican with your wife!" Sil made her bed next to ils by vaguebooking and then posting blatant lies about us on debil for internet sympathy.
I know, I know you can't text dead people guys, but it was DH who decided to respond to her text. The shit has been hitting the fan with FMs and he wanted to tell her like it is. I don't care for the part where it can be interpreted that there is hope things can be repaired. (I don't know what can be said or done or if things can ever be mended.) However according to Bil Mil took the text really hard and right after she read it started convulsing, throwing up, passed out and "almost" had to go to the hospital. Oh and "almost" had a heart attack. 
IMO I think either Bil is dramatizing things to get us scared so we run to ils and make up for "Mil's health" or Mil is a great actress and has Bil and everyone else convinced this situation is going to kill her if DH and I don't get in line.
What did I learn from all of this? Bil is a FM narc who can't be trusted. We are moving (yay!) and I'm pretty sure Bil told them all the details that he knows (Fuck!). My hope was for them to know NOTHING. DH trusted and believed that Bil would keep his trap shut, but NOPE! That was the only reason DH or I were breaching the mil, fil subject with Bil in the first place was to let him know not to open his mouth. 
What in the fuck next? I already told DH that he truly needs to BH everything going forward because you know we don't want to make contact and put mil into convulsions again. I told DH I am done with Bil because the fucking icing on the cake was Bil told me that he almost came and broke down our door and strangled DH the day that all happen because he was so mad at DH for sending that text to Mil and causing her sickness. Bil also threatened that if mil dies from this that "we will feel his wrath!". Bil also advised that GMil from out of state wants to come down and "grab DH and I and mil and fil and tie us up in the middle of no where and make us make up".
I am considering a restraining order, but also know these people are all talk and no action. DH feels strongly that Bil would never be a danger and damn that man's (DH) intuition is always right thus far. I trust DH and his choices 100% because I know he is on my side. DH did feel really bad and completely understood why I was shook up with Bil's threats. DH called Bil and chewed his ass out and told him DW did not grow up in our family and she takes crap said like that seriously. Bil denied that he was actually threatening, but just explained he was telling me how he felt. DH also told him a bunch of other shit and basically called BULLSHIT on Mil getting sick over this situation. DH even said he didn't care about Mil "getting sick" because who cared when DW was hurt and crying because of Mil? (Go DH!)
I don't want to be the stupid that didn't start a paper trail when I could have, should have, but I do trust DH and his instincts. Bil knows the gist of where our new house is, but I told DH I don't want him at the new house ever. The new place already has security cameras set up, we would just need to buy the main control system. Not sure how that will work because I have never had security cameras. Needless to say I will make sure DH gets them up and running.
Please help me look at this from the outside in. TIA
Oh and also according to Bil since the CO anytime we were brought up in conversation and the pils asked Bil questions (he admitted they always interrogate him about us), Mil gets sick for two days and has to go to the doctor.