So, my cousin sent me an invite to her wedding. My mom and SF are C/O but will likely be there.
BG: My mom and SF abused me since I was a little girl. When I left for college, I left home and never went back because I met DH. I haven't gone home in 7 years, and unfortunately because of that, that resulted in having to C/O the rest of my FOO because they all live in the same area and I didn't want to go back to my hometown and it's hard to see other members of my FOO without my mom and SF being there.
After I C/O my mom and SF, my mom got FOO involved and told them I was making up stories about them. I told FOO what happened with mom and SF and then it became a "their word v.s. my word" situation, and my grandma and aunt and uncles and cousins etc. were caught in the middle. Some FOO members didn't want to be involved, including my cousin whose wedding I was invited to. She has done nothing to me, like most of my FOO did nothing to me. It's really just between my mom and SF, my mom was the one who got them involved.
Anyway, I'd really like to go to my cousin's wedding and I know my mom and SF are going to be there. DH is leaving for a training thing that same time as my cousin's wedding and will be gone for two weeks, so that would mean I would have to take our LO since DH won't be home to watch her, and DH will not like that and he will object to me going to the wedding. He doesn't want LO around my mom and SF, and frankly neither do I but since it's a wedding and I won't be alone with them, I was thinking it wouldn't be that big of a deal. And with him being gone for two weeks in training, it would give me free time to go, since he won't have to work at his regular job and I can have the car (we only have one car and I have to take him to and from work). FOO lives on the other side of the state so I'd have to stay a couple nights over there, I plan on staying with my grandma if I do go, not with my mom or SF. I'm afraid I'd hurt my cousin's feelings if I decline the wedding invite, and I'd really like to see my FOO again. They didn't do anything wrong, they just kind of ended up being collateral damage, caught in the crossfire between me v.s. my mom and SF. My C/O has nothing to do with them.
What should I do? My normal meter might be a bit off too, so that's why I'm asking,.you ladies don't beat around the bush. I'll honestly take all advice into consideration. Thank you!