My hubby has had issues with his mother for YEARS, and I try to be supportive, but for the most part we don't interact with her that much. Most of the problems come from the fact that after his initial divorce he moved back in with her so she could help him with the kids (he worked an alternate shift and had the kids 50/50), and he could help her with the house (as she is getting older).
Since we have married, they moved out of her house and moved in with me. She is typical to all the stories I see on here, very overbearing, my DH's kids are "her kids", etc.
Well I was home several weeks ago during the week. Kids are at school, hubby is at work, I am at home with some contractors, a new dog (cattle dog, which do NOT like strangers anyway, and he was stressed because of the contractors), and I had invited my mom out to the house to help me with some painting.
Right as mom and I get ready to sit down to eat lunch, I hear a "HELLO!" SHE JUST WALKED RIGHT IN TO MY HOUSE! Before you say anything about keeping the door locked, it wasn't an option that day because of the workers.
I meet her right as she starts to move from the foyer towards the kitchen. My dog is growling. She starts to say how she was "just driving by" and saw my car, so she thought she would stop in. Thank goodness for having baby gates up for the new dog (I normally don't have them once the dogs learn where they are allowed to go). I stood blocking the way to the kitchen, mom was behind me. I do the normal "chit chat" for 2-3 min, and my mom, being friendly, mentions how we are painting. Cue the passive-agressiveness. "I told them I would help paint, but I guess they just don't want me."
I tell her we are getting ready to eat lunch, but that with the dog being on high alert (he had calmed down but I was thankful for the excuse), that I would rather she not come into the kitchen. So she tells me she will just walk around, I guess meaning she was just going to stand at the baby gate at the other end of the kitchen to watch mom and I eat?! It was at that point that I told her, "as respectfully as possible I am going to have to ask you to bow out, there is a lot going on here today." Cue the tears, and she said ok fine bye, and stormed out.
so by now I am sure she has told everyone how her horrid DIL kicked her out.
le sigh... I am just glad I had a backbone!