Hello, I've posted here a couple of times. I'll explain how my mil is really quick, she is very close to her five children including my DH, her husband left them when my DH was 12 (DH is the oldest) She confides in my DH like he was her best friend or even like a husband. Someone mentioned "emotional incest" on my last post, I read about emotional incest and it does sound like my mil. She wants us at her house every weekend, which we were doing for past month and I put a stop to that last weekend. I had a long talk with DH about not going over there so often and he agreed with me but I here's the thing, I think he should talk to his mom about us not going there every weekend because she has told him that we NEED to spend every weekend with each other since we're family. I want my DH to explain to her that he has a family and we come first. Problem is I know DH is worried about hurting her feelings, should I be the one to talk to her about this issue?
I also have issues with BIL who is 16 years old, he is very careless with both of my daughters, he plays rough with 5 year old, and he's tried throwing my 4 month old up in the air. He's very immature. I've yelled at him several times when I see him being careless with my daughters but he can't seem to get it though his thick scull. My DH has spoken to him several times about this issue. He doesn't listen to anyone. Like I said, he's immature and can care less when DH or mil tell him anything. What should I do with this matter?
I also have issues with BIL who is 16 years old, he is very careless with both of my daughters, he plays rough with 5 year old, and he's tried throwing my 4 month old up in the air. He's very immature. I've yelled at him several times when I see him being careless with my daughters but he can't seem to get it though his thick scull. My DH has spoken to him several times about this issue. He doesn't listen to anyone. Like I said, he's immature and can care less when DH or mil tell him anything. What should I do with this matter?