To start, I will post the link to the original story here. http://community.babycenter.com/post/a45502465/my_not_pregnant_sister_in_law_ud_pg_10
Basically, my sil is self absorbed and acting childish, because we are pregnant and they are not... nor are they trying to get pregnant. And they have NO fertility problems, my SIL is justreally wrapped up her own self loathing.
Soooo, since we got pregnant, a couple of noteworthy things have happened.
1st, BIL's wife got pregnant (SIL's oldest brother). She is due 3 weeks after me! My husband and I are very excited for her! (which was a whole other situation all together)
2nd- SIL is actively avoiding any gatherings I will be at.
Now on to my concern.
Over the past 9 months (I am due in less than 2 weeks), SIL has completely avoided me. My husbands family all live with in 25 minutes of each other, so everyonce in a while, we all get together for birthdays, and special occasions and such. We also do some business together, so we (used to) see each other all the time. We are not enmeshed at all, but every month or 2 (between Christmas, birthday, baby showers, graduation etc.) , we would do a family dinner. Since we announced our pregnancy, I have seen SIL once at Christmas, and once at her brothers bday dinner, in which she didn't talk to me at all. It wasn't that she completely ignored me, she just never actually even said hi or anything because we got there after dinner had started and people were already having their own conversations. Anyway, she hasn't bothered to talk to me in 9 months and I am about to have a baby. My concern is that suddenly she is going to want to reappear and spend time with the baby. She doesn't really like her oldest brothers wife (who is also pregnant) but whenever there is a new baby, she is happy to spend as much time w the baby as she can. I am not trying to make a big deal out of this before anything even happens, I just want to be prepapred for what to say when I have basically been ignored the last 9 months and SIL will most likely, suddenly want to pop back into my family's life, not because she cares about us, but because she wants to play with the baby. I get that she is hurting, but I have a huge issue with her disappearing off the face of the earth, suddenly not talking to me AT ALL, since I got pregnant, and then (presumably) wanting to hop back into my life just, just so she can play with my baby. It think she is being selfish and disrespectful and I am going to have a hard time letting that all go, just because I had a baby. I would like to note, that I think its great she stayed home from family events, if she didn't feel she could behave appropriately around a pregnant person, but I'm not cool with her suddenly deciding to be nice again so she can hold my baby.
I'm not really looking to be a jerk. I'm just not sure how I should handle this upcoming situation. I think it needs to be addressed, but am I just being petty? I would love some advice! What should I say to SIL (and her husband) and my MIL, when she likely jumps to SIL's defense. Thanks!
also... sorry if this post doesn't make sense. My head is a little fuzzy today. I am happy to clarify anything.