MIL and I have had a rocky relationship ever since we moved into her old house (family home, which we paid market value for) and she left so much behind! She is a hoarder and it took me nearly a year to clean it all up, anyways. She moved 6 hours away, to be nearer her other children, and grandchildren. She is now in an hour and a half radius to all her kids (5 of them) but us. She called yesterday to say she had come up for Father's Day (her parents are about an hour from us) but that she didn't want to stop because she has been travelling far too much (between all the kids near her) so she didn't feel like coming to visit us. I am taking it super personally, because whether I dislike her or not, I think it's important for her to know her grand baby that's here! (9 months) and it's a ridiculous excuse that she won't come visit when she's an hour away because she is tired from visiting all the other kids that she sees weekly (literally) and she has only seen my LO 3 times, and they were all times I took him to her! My DH doesn't care. But it hurts my feelings that she doesn't make time for my baby, he says she will get better when he's older, but in my opinion she can't choose to be in his life when it's convenient for her, and that we should no longer make the trip to see her, since she is not willing to make that effort herself. I hate making the trip and DH thinks this is just an excuse to not go visit his family anymore, but my point is that the highway goes both ways and they can make an effort too! Some of the siblings haven't been home in 20 years or more. Am I being selfish? Or should I put my foot down and stop making the trips?
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