First time here - birth board pointed me here. My MIL moved in this past April to take care of LO while I'm at work - she doesn't really speak English. Now my husband and I had far from the perfect marriage before LO so this isn't the only reason we fight, but now it's constant at least once a week major blow up. While I'm thankful his mom is taking care of LO there are no boundaries and I feel smothered. I literally spend no time alone with LO MIL is always around. Tonight's fight was because I didn't say hello to his mom when I came in from my fathers - LO was screaming when we came in the door. She nursed and fell asleep. He says I could have taken 30 seconds to day hello and let her see LO because she didn't see her all weekend. Yes I got one weekend for him to agree to let us be alone with LO. So 12 hours after dropping MIL off at her sisters she skypes with my DH because she misses LO. I'm trying to find a balance - I didn't think having her take care of LO meant I'd spend every night and weekend with her and if I wasn't spending time she'd be calling. I'm really looking so success stories - things you've done to find balance and a win win. At this point it's a very possible reality I'll lose my marriage because of this.
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