Ok I need help. My husbands entire family is bat shit crazy. We have been married 3 years, have a 1 year old, and I am pregnant agian. According to her and my fil, I am this super controlling bitch who is after my husband's money (Did you know E4's in the Army make MAJOR bank?!). I have been told by her and my sil I only had these kids to trap him, that I have no rights to them, I am simply HIS surrogate for kids. His family (specifically his mom and sister) have more rights to my kids than I do according to them. Ok well When I had our first, he was deployed. His mother would call daily to ask where I was, why I wasn't home, who I was with, and then would email him telling him that I am out partying. No. I was not. I was screening your calls lady. Then his sister would ask for belly pics. I don't even take them! I sent her one. She said "well i cant see the baby, you have a shirt covering your belly!" So she would message my husband telling him what a bitch I am, and what a mistake he made marrying and getting me pregnant. Not one of them made any contact with me after the baby was born except to tell me that they have more rights than I do to her...other than on the ONE picture I posted of me and our daughter, and all his sister said was "my baby bro is a daddy now". really? on the one pic of just me and the baby? Not only did they have no contact with me, they had no contact with him. Except when they were tellng him how awful I was. And when his brother messaged him 2 months after Christmas asking where his daughters christmas present was. DH said that we sent it in the beginning of Dec. He said he never got it. So I felt so bad, I called Amazon (we got her a $50 amazong gift card). They said they couldn't send a replacement. It was used. BY HIM. TO BUY HER THE KINDLE HE BOUGHT HER FOR CHRSISTMAS!!!
Now it has been 3 years since they have seen us, and his mom is coming. She calls daily about coming out. She was supposed to be coming Aug 7-12, now she is coming the 8-16. We planned a lot around this trip and all she did was laugh and say how now she gets to spend more time with her granddaughter. She thought it was so funny. She calls yesterday to tell us she doesn't eat red meat now, so therefore NOBODY can eat red meat at all when they are here. Why? If we have a cook out and I am going to make you turkey burgers, which we do not eat, why can I not make regular burgers? She also will be here for our anniversary (Aug 15). She has never met my daughter and says they will take her back to the hotel for the night so we can have alone time. All night. No thanks. I am good. Now she wants to take my barely 1 year old to the nail salon to get their nails done, and I can pay for it. No. She wants to take her to the pool alone. No. She isn't allowed to take her anywhere. She has never met her. She isn't going to be taking her anywhere. I am usually super lax with my kid, but no. Well today is DH's birthday. She calls at 6am to say happy birthday. The one day he could have slept in the entire week. And 6am she wakes the whole house up, and thinks its hilarious. She legit could not stop laughing. Yesterday we went to the pool, and she blew up my phone freaking out on where I was, who I was with, what I was doing. I was at the pool with a friend and her 5 kids. Then she txts my husband telling him that I wouldn't talk to her and she didn't know where I was with "her granddaughter" SERIOUSLY?!?!?!? My mom got REALLY sick 2 months ago and was hospitalized, so naturally, I went home. Of course I took my daughter. MIL was livid that I would take our kid, then called me on my daughters birthday, NOT to say happy birthday to our daughter (she didn't even talk to her) but to ask me why I had left her son....my response was "I did not know I had". She said "now is not the time to be smart with me" ha! what the hell lady?! My mom is in the hospital, so I comehome and that equates to me getting a divorce?!?! She is legit insane. Beyond insane.
I just don't know what to do anymore about her. She is SUPER controlling and annoying and just wont back the fuck off. My husband has told her on multiple occassions to back it off, she doesnt listen. We have tried everything. He has pretty much stopped talking to everyone in his family except her, but she just wont stop.