I posted on M&R since it's a DuH rather than an IL problem but the unicorns came out. Have a background on here, mostly about MIL, will post links in comments.
I'm 32 weeks pregnant. Before I got pregnant, DH was very insistent that no child of his would ever be left alone with either MIL (alcoholic, emotionally abusive, manipulator) or FIL (sexually and physically abusive). MIL and FIL are divorced and both remarried.
MIL has done her best to boundary stomp this pregnancy. MIL and I are now mutually ELC as she didn't like it when I ignored her (I BHd all of her messages that greeted me with "how's my grandbaby"). Baby is almost here now and she is keeping barbs to a minimum because she knows that if she steps over the line she won't get a chance to play GMOTY.
DH and I had mutually decided to stop all info train to grandparents. Changed hospital, we got told we needed a c/s so baby will be here at least 2 weeks early. We even discussed how great it was that no one would be able to surprise us at the hospital because they would be at the wrong one.
I stupidly agreed to see MIL and SFIL for lunch yesterday. Turns out MIL can behave herself though, I was quite surprised. More surprising? She knows we changed hospital, she knows the name we have picked, she knows I'll be delivering at 38 weeks and she even knows the name of the neurosurgeon who will be taking LO away for tests while I'm still being stitched back up in theatre.
Other highlights of the day include DuH encouraging her to buy all this fancy play gym equipment for LO to use.
I'm fucked. It's bad enough that all the doctors and midwives will be holding LO before I get a chance. And now he can't wait to serve her up to the woman who abused him. I was too exhausted to point out all the ways he has monumentally fucked this up last night and just went to bed. Counselling is going to happen as soon as we can afford it which probably won't be until after LO is here. I can borrow $ from my parents but don't want to because that would be them getting overinvolved in our relationship, and I'm pissed at DuH for doing exactly that.
Help me DWIL. I need to smack some sense into DuH. Will be registering private at the hospital but that's useless when he can just tell everyone where to find me or let them in to NICU to see LO.
I'm 32 weeks pregnant. Before I got pregnant, DH was very insistent that no child of his would ever be left alone with either MIL (alcoholic, emotionally abusive, manipulator) or FIL (sexually and physically abusive). MIL and FIL are divorced and both remarried.
MIL has done her best to boundary stomp this pregnancy. MIL and I are now mutually ELC as she didn't like it when I ignored her (I BHd all of her messages that greeted me with "how's my grandbaby"). Baby is almost here now and she is keeping barbs to a minimum because she knows that if she steps over the line she won't get a chance to play GMOTY.
DH and I had mutually decided to stop all info train to grandparents. Changed hospital, we got told we needed a c/s so baby will be here at least 2 weeks early. We even discussed how great it was that no one would be able to surprise us at the hospital because they would be at the wrong one.
I stupidly agreed to see MIL and SFIL for lunch yesterday. Turns out MIL can behave herself though, I was quite surprised. More surprising? She knows we changed hospital, she knows the name we have picked, she knows I'll be delivering at 38 weeks and she even knows the name of the neurosurgeon who will be taking LO away for tests while I'm still being stitched back up in theatre.
Other highlights of the day include DuH encouraging her to buy all this fancy play gym equipment for LO to use.
I'm fucked. It's bad enough that all the doctors and midwives will be holding LO before I get a chance. And now he can't wait to serve her up to the woman who abused him. I was too exhausted to point out all the ways he has monumentally fucked this up last night and just went to bed. Counselling is going to happen as soon as we can afford it which probably won't be until after LO is here. I can borrow $ from my parents but don't want to because that would be them getting overinvolved in our relationship, and I'm pissed at DuH for doing exactly that.
Help me DWIL. I need to smack some sense into DuH. Will be registering private at the hospital but that's useless when he can just tell everyone where to find me or let them in to NICU to see LO.