I am between a rock and a hard place. I will do my best to give as much history as possible, but this is over 6 years.
I met my ex husband when I was 15 years old and the relationship lasted until I was 21. My ex was abusive and cheated on me so many times I can't count but I was young and dumb and put up with it. I broke up with him after he beat the crap out of me, and a few months later had sex with him once and got pregnant when I was 19. We got back together basically because I was pregnant. That lasted until my daughter was about 18 months old. At that point I had moved 18 hours away from my family because he is military, so I was isolated. He cheated on me again so I finally left him. he was cheating while I was back home visiting my family. He went back to his state and I stayed in my home state with my family. Filed for divorce in early 2011 and then met my SO that fall. Fast forward my SO has been involved with my DD since she was two and she is 5 1/2. We just had a baby in April together, and live together.
So...throughout all of this my ex's mom has been involved with me about my DD since he lives out of state. He's never really been that involved with her unless he's home visiting, never keeps her alone...
She accused me from the beginning that my Dd wasn't his and forced me into a paternity test. Has criticized my parenting under the pretense of caring about us. We've gotten along to a point but after years of being abused and controlled I'm kind of a pushover and have no spine when it comes to my ex and his family. We had a drawn out almost three year divorce, which his parents paid for his lawyer and tried to deem me unfit in court, and even though I have full physical custody...I'm still scared and I don't know why exactly. This is starting to affect my relationship with my SO who is the one raising my daughter with me.
Today she was going to pick up my daughter to go to the movies and I had fallen asleep trying to put my newborn down for a nap, so when I didn't answer my phone she showed up at my house and came in my front door into my bedroom and woke me up. She then started to question me and tell me she was uncomfortable with me caring for my daughter because i was asleep. She said she thought my child was unhappy with me because she cried a lot (she's adjusting to life with a new sibling) but she is healthy and happy I assure you.
My SO has been telling me to stand up to her for years and I wouldn't ever do it, so when I called him hysterical about today he went and filed a police report for her coming into my house. I was upset with him intervening but he says he did it because it's his house too and he was not ok with this.
Please give me advise on what to do. I don't know how to grow a spine.
(Sorry this was typed on iPhone)
I met my ex husband when I was 15 years old and the relationship lasted until I was 21. My ex was abusive and cheated on me so many times I can't count but I was young and dumb and put up with it. I broke up with him after he beat the crap out of me, and a few months later had sex with him once and got pregnant when I was 19. We got back together basically because I was pregnant. That lasted until my daughter was about 18 months old. At that point I had moved 18 hours away from my family because he is military, so I was isolated. He cheated on me again so I finally left him. he was cheating while I was back home visiting my family. He went back to his state and I stayed in my home state with my family. Filed for divorce in early 2011 and then met my SO that fall. Fast forward my SO has been involved with my DD since she was two and she is 5 1/2. We just had a baby in April together, and live together.
So...throughout all of this my ex's mom has been involved with me about my DD since he lives out of state. He's never really been that involved with her unless he's home visiting, never keeps her alone...
She accused me from the beginning that my Dd wasn't his and forced me into a paternity test. Has criticized my parenting under the pretense of caring about us. We've gotten along to a point but after years of being abused and controlled I'm kind of a pushover and have no spine when it comes to my ex and his family. We had a drawn out almost three year divorce, which his parents paid for his lawyer and tried to deem me unfit in court, and even though I have full physical custody...I'm still scared and I don't know why exactly. This is starting to affect my relationship with my SO who is the one raising my daughter with me.
Today she was going to pick up my daughter to go to the movies and I had fallen asleep trying to put my newborn down for a nap, so when I didn't answer my phone she showed up at my house and came in my front door into my bedroom and woke me up. She then started to question me and tell me she was uncomfortable with me caring for my daughter because i was asleep. She said she thought my child was unhappy with me because she cried a lot (she's adjusting to life with a new sibling) but she is healthy and happy I assure you.
My SO has been telling me to stand up to her for years and I wouldn't ever do it, so when I called him hysterical about today he went and filed a police report for her coming into my house. I was upset with him intervening but he says he did it because it's his house too and he was not ok with this.
Please give me advise on what to do. I don't know how to grow a spine.
(Sorry this was typed on iPhone)