Long, long, lonnnng story. Will share any details you ask. Dont know where to start. But here is the text I sent to my FIL and SMIL and it feels so good to tell them how things will be for now on be.
" FIL. We do not owe you or anybody an explanation for the rules and boundaries we set for friends and family members regarding OUR son, nor should we have to defend them. But i will make this clear to you anyways so there is no confusion. The difference between you and my mom is that shes ASKS before posting ANY pictures of our son. And her page is private. SMIL'S page is NOT private.
All DH asked was for SMIL to change the picture settings so our son's pictures are not public to any freaks and weirdos out there. DH did not prohibit you from posting pictures of our son (even though you should ask the mother and father of the child before posting any picture of the baby as you are NOT the parent of said child.) The difference between MY mom and you two is that she respects us as parents and does NOT question or debate the rules and boundaries we set for OUR child. WE are the parents of DS and if you want anything to do with OUR son you will respect and comply with what we ask of you and others in reguards to OUR son. If you do not comply you will not have the privilege to see OUR son.
DH sent a perfectly calm and respectful email to SMIL and you two blew it out of proportion and behaved like selfish, spoiled, entitled children. We will NOT tolerate this behavior. If you want any part in our lives or our son's life you will respect our privacy and boundaries that we set for the safety and welfare of OUR child. DH and I are married, equal team members, and mother and father to OUR child. We together set and agree on rules reguarding OUR son. There will not be any negotiating or debating the rules we set reguarding our son. If you do not respect this then you will not recieve the privilege to see OUR son. So please quit harassing my husband and trying to discuss this as it is not open for negotiation nor will we defend our rules and values. I hope we can move past this and move forward to acting like family who accept, love, and respect eachother."
So what do you think? How did I do?
Its 5:00am so I wont be able to reply to any of this till later in the day after I take care of my chores and get baby settled down. Thanks in advance for your support, opinions, and/or concerns.
" FIL. We do not owe you or anybody an explanation for the rules and boundaries we set for friends and family members regarding OUR son, nor should we have to defend them. But i will make this clear to you anyways so there is no confusion. The difference between you and my mom is that shes ASKS before posting ANY pictures of our son. And her page is private. SMIL'S page is NOT private.
All DH asked was for SMIL to change the picture settings so our son's pictures are not public to any freaks and weirdos out there. DH did not prohibit you from posting pictures of our son (even though you should ask the mother and father of the child before posting any picture of the baby as you are NOT the parent of said child.) The difference between MY mom and you two is that she respects us as parents and does NOT question or debate the rules and boundaries we set for OUR child. WE are the parents of DS and if you want anything to do with OUR son you will respect and comply with what we ask of you and others in reguards to OUR son. If you do not comply you will not have the privilege to see OUR son.
DH sent a perfectly calm and respectful email to SMIL and you two blew it out of proportion and behaved like selfish, spoiled, entitled children. We will NOT tolerate this behavior. If you want any part in our lives or our son's life you will respect our privacy and boundaries that we set for the safety and welfare of OUR child. DH and I are married, equal team members, and mother and father to OUR child. We together set and agree on rules reguarding OUR son. There will not be any negotiating or debating the rules we set reguarding our son. If you do not respect this then you will not recieve the privilege to see OUR son. So please quit harassing my husband and trying to discuss this as it is not open for negotiation nor will we defend our rules and values. I hope we can move past this and move forward to acting like family who accept, love, and respect eachother."
So what do you think? How did I do?
Its 5:00am so I wont be able to reply to any of this till later in the day after I take care of my chores and get baby settled down. Thanks in advance for your support, opinions, and/or concerns.