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Sorry this is so long, but here goes.
Me and my DuH aren't on good terms right now. We have a 3 year old daughter and I am currently pregnant with our son. When I first found out I was pregnant, he asked me to get an abortion. I told him I knew I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I did and that I wasn't going to do it. He pushed it on me for weeks until he finally saw that I was not going to give in. After a few days of resentment (he was pissed that I wouldn't go through with it) in a fit of rage he admitted to me that he had been cheating on me for a year and a half! I made him leave! I kicked him out along with his things and changed the locks. His mom has always been a 3rd wheel in our marriage, everytime something went wrong or if we argued he would be in the next room, on the phone, whining to HIS MOOOOMMYYYY. In his mother's eyes, her son can do no wrong. Even after he confessed to having an affair, she somehow made it my fault, saying things like "if you knew how to be a real wife your man wouldn't need to go find satisfaction elsewhere" or "why didn't you just go ahead with the abortion? You can always have more kids later on when you're both ready. Sounds petty if you ask me!" I got tired of hearing her try to make his infidelity my fault and began to distance myself from his entire family. About a month later, my DuH came to me and said that he wants our marriage to work and that he'll do anything to keep us together. I told him I want marriage counseling, and even then he is still not allowed back in the house. Well when his mother heard the news she was pissed! She told my duh that he was perfect in every way and doesn't need counseling! She told him that I was a stupid bitch and that he shouldn't change a thing for me (these are all her words) So I told him that in order for our marriage to have a chance he needs to limit his contact with his mother, and he agreed. He's limited his contact (when I kicked him out he was staying with her but now he's staying with his brother, I still haven't let him come back home) so now MIL is blaming me for everything once again! She texted me a few days ago asking if my DD could spend the night, but I've been ignoring all of her texts since she said all those things about me! Well the next morning she shows up at my house unannounced and I guess she may have tried to use the spare key and it didn't work (I changed the locks; she must've gotten the spare from my DuH) because she started banging on my door telling me to "open the fucking door" I told her she was scaring my DD and she needed to leave. She then began calling me all types of names, saying I'm a whore and saying I've turned her son against her and now I'm going to turn her granddaughter against her. I told her she was doing this to herself and I've got 911 on speed dial if she doesn't leave within the next 5 seconds. she left, and then proceeded to send me a slew of texts about how much she never liked me, how happy she was when she found out my marriage was failing, and she admitted that she set my DuH up on a date with the girl he cheated on me with! She also said that she doesn't believe my DD is her sons child and she wants DNA tests done on DD and my son when he is born, and then texted me and apologized for her behavior and explained how she just wanted to see DD and got out of control. I didn't reply to any of these texts and just showed them to my DuH when he came by to see DD. We had a long talk and agreed that his mom needs a TO/possible CO. My problem is, I know that when he goes to talk to his mom, she again, is going to make this all my fault and I have no idea how to handle this! Any advice?
Sorry this is so long, but here goes.
Me and my DuH aren't on good terms right now. We have a 3 year old daughter and I am currently pregnant with our son. When I first found out I was pregnant, he asked me to get an abortion. I told him I knew I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I did and that I wasn't going to do it. He pushed it on me for weeks until he finally saw that I was not going to give in. After a few days of resentment (he was pissed that I wouldn't go through with it) in a fit of rage he admitted to me that he had been cheating on me for a year and a half! I made him leave! I kicked him out along with his things and changed the locks. His mom has always been a 3rd wheel in our marriage, everytime something went wrong or if we argued he would be in the next room, on the phone, whining to HIS MOOOOMMYYYY. In his mother's eyes, her son can do no wrong. Even after he confessed to having an affair, she somehow made it my fault, saying things like "if you knew how to be a real wife your man wouldn't need to go find satisfaction elsewhere" or "why didn't you just go ahead with the abortion? You can always have more kids later on when you're both ready. Sounds petty if you ask me!" I got tired of hearing her try to make his infidelity my fault and began to distance myself from his entire family. About a month later, my DuH came to me and said that he wants our marriage to work and that he'll do anything to keep us together. I told him I want marriage counseling, and even then he is still not allowed back in the house. Well when his mother heard the news she was pissed! She told my duh that he was perfect in every way and doesn't need counseling! She told him that I was a stupid bitch and that he shouldn't change a thing for me (these are all her words) So I told him that in order for our marriage to have a chance he needs to limit his contact with his mother, and he agreed. He's limited his contact (when I kicked him out he was staying with her but now he's staying with his brother, I still haven't let him come back home) so now MIL is blaming me for everything once again! She texted me a few days ago asking if my DD could spend the night, but I've been ignoring all of her texts since she said all those things about me! Well the next morning she shows up at my house unannounced and I guess she may have tried to use the spare key and it didn't work (I changed the locks; she must've gotten the spare from my DuH) because she started banging on my door telling me to "open the fucking door" I told her she was scaring my DD and she needed to leave. She then began calling me all types of names, saying I'm a whore and saying I've turned her son against her and now I'm going to turn her granddaughter against her. I told her she was doing this to herself and I've got 911 on speed dial if she doesn't leave within the next 5 seconds. she left, and then proceeded to send me a slew of texts about how much she never liked me, how happy she was when she found out my marriage was failing, and she admitted that she set my DuH up on a date with the girl he cheated on me with! She also said that she doesn't believe my DD is her sons child and she wants DNA tests done on DD and my son when he is born, and then texted me and apologized for her behavior and explained how she just wanted to see DD and got out of control. I didn't reply to any of these texts and just showed them to my DuH when he came by to see DD. We had a long talk and agreed that his mom needs a TO/possible CO. My problem is, I know that when he goes to talk to his mom, she again, is going to make this all my fault and I have no idea how to handle this! Any advice?