Ok I'm new here from June 13 board. My in laws are great dont get me wrong but are driving me insane!!! I requested that nobody stay with us since we have a 1 month old she was born 37 weeks due to preeclampsia.
A little bg we told our parents we weren't letting anyone know until after the birth of our daughter that's just what we did but prior to my mil who in 2 and a half years has only called my phone because dh didn't answer his calls me asks if I want her to come when I
Go in labor. Um hello I've said many times I don't want anyone here nor will you know I'm in labor. My mom is my best friend I didn't want her there why would I want his mom who I've met 5 times there? Um no thanks! We said we wanted to wait a few weeks after delivery to adjust she proceeded to tell me when she wanted to come I nicely said we requested everyone wait until we are ready for visitors to visit and not all at once she never once asked dh how my pregnancy was going. Then she told me she didn't breast feed cause she didn't want titty babies and she liked ff so others could give bottles while she slept excuse me who's kids were they yours or someone else's? Dh left for 2 1/2 days when lo was 4 days I done excellent on my own with her actually loved it. Well now to date I asked everyone find a hotel room when visiting due to I want family time still not in the mood to entertain anyone were packing moving my house is a mess. well dh is letting them stay with us. I pump asked dh where I'm suppose to pump he said in my bedroom like this their house not mine I'm suppose to make them comfortable. He won't listen to me so I'm suppose to sit in my room half the day and pump? Last I checked I pay the damn bills everything's in my name not dh name mine I have to be like a child? My family isn't staying with us mind you my grandparents went as far as bringing their camper as to give us family time in the evenings. I also requested no pics be shared off my fb or dh fb we have ppl who are blocked on ours that can see others and want to know our lives ie dh crazy ex some ppl on my side of the family once again my family has respected this they put her birth pic up which we allowed his again isn't respecting it took photos off my page. They have given me no credit in her birth or creating her. She was born 2 days before mil birthday not my choice but she made it all about her (mil). When they come they always have some sob story to tell us I don't by it but they always make dh feel bad. She smokes like a chimney told dh she will wash her hands every time she smokes put a blanket on her she's subjecting my child to that. They drink all our wine coolers and beer, bring their yapping dogs with them that bark 24/7 let them on the couch mine aren't allowed due to lo, they get on my dogs for tormenting theirs because they are bark all the time sorry I have puppies and this is their home. Told dh ill put the anti bark collar on them. His stepdad cusses like a sailor yes lo is a month old not what we want around her, he yells never talks comes here thinking he owns my home. Dfil wont call lo by her name calls her by her middle name shes named after dh hes got a gender neutral name i take great pride in her name he takes even greater pride we want her to take great pride in her name. I can go on and on all day about them. .. I'm having severe anxiety about them coming here because they never respect anything and mil thinks that since she done it this way with her kids I should too. I mean her 2 yr old my dh set my bil crib on fire what great parenting that is. .. I just don't know how to get dh to understand he thinks she's gods gift to earth and she walks on water. ..
A little bg we told our parents we weren't letting anyone know until after the birth of our daughter that's just what we did but prior to my mil who in 2 and a half years has only called my phone because dh didn't answer his calls me asks if I want her to come when I
Go in labor. Um hello I've said many times I don't want anyone here nor will you know I'm in labor. My mom is my best friend I didn't want her there why would I want his mom who I've met 5 times there? Um no thanks! We said we wanted to wait a few weeks after delivery to adjust she proceeded to tell me when she wanted to come I nicely said we requested everyone wait until we are ready for visitors to visit and not all at once she never once asked dh how my pregnancy was going. Then she told me she didn't breast feed cause she didn't want titty babies and she liked ff so others could give bottles while she slept excuse me who's kids were they yours or someone else's? Dh left for 2 1/2 days when lo was 4 days I done excellent on my own with her actually loved it. Well now to date I asked everyone find a hotel room when visiting due to I want family time still not in the mood to entertain anyone were packing moving my house is a mess. well dh is letting them stay with us. I pump asked dh where I'm suppose to pump he said in my bedroom like this their house not mine I'm suppose to make them comfortable. He won't listen to me so I'm suppose to sit in my room half the day and pump? Last I checked I pay the damn bills everything's in my name not dh name mine I have to be like a child? My family isn't staying with us mind you my grandparents went as far as bringing their camper as to give us family time in the evenings. I also requested no pics be shared off my fb or dh fb we have ppl who are blocked on ours that can see others and want to know our lives ie dh crazy ex some ppl on my side of the family once again my family has respected this they put her birth pic up which we allowed his again isn't respecting it took photos off my page. They have given me no credit in her birth or creating her. She was born 2 days before mil birthday not my choice but she made it all about her (mil). When they come they always have some sob story to tell us I don't by it but they always make dh feel bad. She smokes like a chimney told dh she will wash her hands every time she smokes put a blanket on her she's subjecting my child to that. They drink all our wine coolers and beer, bring their yapping dogs with them that bark 24/7 let them on the couch mine aren't allowed due to lo, they get on my dogs for tormenting theirs because they are bark all the time sorry I have puppies and this is their home. Told dh ill put the anti bark collar on them. His stepdad cusses like a sailor yes lo is a month old not what we want around her, he yells never talks comes here thinking he owns my home. Dfil wont call lo by her name calls her by her middle name shes named after dh hes got a gender neutral name i take great pride in her name he takes even greater pride we want her to take great pride in her name. I can go on and on all day about them. .. I'm having severe anxiety about them coming here because they never respect anything and mil thinks that since she done it this way with her kids I should too. I mean her 2 yr old my dh set my bil crib on fire what great parenting that is. .. I just don't know how to get dh to understand he thinks she's gods gift to earth and she walks on water. ..