Feels like my family just can't catch a break these past few days.
Today, I get a call from my father who lives halfway across the world because they (he and my youngest - 3rd- sister) were worried about my 2nd sister who was flying here to the States and was supposed to have reached NY at a certain time and checked in with them. Turns out, she was just delayed. BUT I didn't even know she was heading back, etc., and we go to the same college.
So, I contacted 2nd sister about what her plans were, when she was going to get here, if she had a ride, etc. because from previous experience with her and plans, she isn't really much of a planner. Ex: She actually had NO way to get to the airport that was 2 hours away after the semester ended, and she just sprang it on me and my fam last minute to take her. This is significant because I'd been asking her what her plans were after school ended, and she told me little to nothing, but expected me and my fam to bail her out of a tough spot.
Anyway, when I asked her when she was flying in, if she had a ride, etc., she says, "I'm going to (mom's state/town) first. And after that, I left the rest of the planning in her hands. I believe she'll be driving me with my stuff for the apartment."
ED lives 4 states away, we recently moved, and I've LOVED every moment of knowing she doesn't know where we live.
Now the problem is: our college town is TINY. Like, ant sized tiny town. The home we moved into is only a block away from campus. A very short block. Our campus is also tiny, to match the tiny sized town. My husband and I are also extremely involved (mostly me who's more involved) in all the student activities/orientations for incoming students, and we'll be spending a lot of time on campus. Me more than him, because he'll be watching our DD and he'll be on campus for activities that our DD can be in, where he is also able to help out.
If ED comes here, there's just no way to hide. What do we do?? Should we openly ignore her in public if we were to see each other? Should we be civil? Like, seriously, what should we do?? Or say? ED is SOOO good at making these chide, hurtful comments that I'm always at a loss for replies. If I hear one from her, do I just ignore?
Also, what pisses me off is that, if she does come here, knowing her, she has NOT booked any hotels/motels for her to stay in. She also cannot stay on campus with my sister obviously, so, this is why I feel it's an ambush. Where I'm going to be "culturally" subjugated to put her up and let her stay with us. There is no way in fucking hell I nor my husband want this to happen. We don't even want her to know where we live. So, when I am inevitably pressured either directly by her, or through the HUGE FM Sister, to put her up, what do I say? - This question is for AFTER, all the, "NO.", "It does not work for us." etc., have all been used, and we're still being pressured. And I say still being pressured (obviously we'll stop engaging after the first and last response to each person) because, within an hour at most, the FMs from all around the frickin globe are going to descend upon us. Why? Because, "How could I possibly be so mean to dear ole mommy?? And even going against cultural and filial duties! Is it because I married a white guy I forgot my roots??" And so much more other gems like that.
I'm still so mad I'm seeing red, because 2nd sister REFUSES to tell me any specifics. I really think it's because she (through ED of course, the master manipulator) doesn't want me to have the opportunity to shut down the whole staying with us thing beforehand.
I hope this post made sense through my anger. If it doesn't, I'm truly sorry, and I blame my rage at all the crap that's been happening. Happy to fill in holes.
Oh yeah, moving in time is this Saturday for students.