My mom wasn't the best when I was growing up. She allowed my dad to go too far with physical discipline a few times (generally of my brother - he would act out; I flew under the radar). On her part, she was mostly absent. (The rule when my parents got home was simple: if you're not bleeding or broken, don't bother them).
Every summer, they would send us up to stay with our grandparents for a while. My grandmother, like my mom, does not stand up to the males in her life. I can remember a time when my brother did something that upset GPA; GPA tied bro to a building with a dog bowl of water. Bro was 10.
FF to now. Bro has little to do with FOO. I visit occasionally (once or twice a year).
I was there this week. During a car ride with Mom, she starts telling me about all the physical and emotional abuse my GPA put her through as a child. She tells me this because, "while your bro doesn't care, I wanted you to understand (why she wasn't awesome as a mom I guess).
I'm pissed. For years, I have chalked her behavior up to absenteeism. Crappy, but I'm a big girl and can recognize that it wasn't normal and break the cycle with my own los. Now, in her attempt to justify her actions, she tells me she willingly sent my bro and I to stay with a man whom she says physically and emotionally abused her!
So, I need advice. Do I call her on this shit, or do I just walk away without a word?
ETA: correction of grammar error; update page numbers
Every summer, they would send us up to stay with our grandparents for a while. My grandmother, like my mom, does not stand up to the males in her life. I can remember a time when my brother did something that upset GPA; GPA tied bro to a building with a dog bowl of water. Bro was 10.
FF to now. Bro has little to do with FOO. I visit occasionally (once or twice a year).
I was there this week. During a car ride with Mom, she starts telling me about all the physical and emotional abuse my GPA put her through as a child. She tells me this because, "while your bro doesn't care, I wanted you to understand (why she wasn't awesome as a mom I guess).
I'm pissed. For years, I have chalked her behavior up to absenteeism. Crappy, but I'm a big girl and can recognize that it wasn't normal and break the cycle with my own los. Now, in her attempt to justify her actions, she tells me she willingly sent my bro and I to stay with a man whom she says physically and emotionally abused her!
So, I need advice. Do I call her on this shit, or do I just walk away without a word?
ETA: correction of grammar error; update page numbers