Sorry, not hair flipping here. I tried for two days to log into my old account and I can't remember the email I used. I swear it was the one I was putting in, but I kept getting an error. Pregnancy brain!
Let me give a update. Not much has happened. After the confrontation at SOs job and the text FMIL sent me, she put us both on a TO! LOL! Best days of my life. SO is getting irritated at the Passive agressive Memes that she posts on her facebook page, but I told him he can just unfriend her like I did. He didn't though.
We did HAVE to see her this weekend because SIL just gave birth to a new baby boy (No one knew she was pregnant and I can understand why) Me, SO, and MIL all took the same emergency flight out to meet the baby upon BIL and SIL's request. It's been a week postpartum. FMIL is pissed about that and I mean very pissed. She frowned the entire plane ride and did not speak more than two words to either of us. SO seemed like he could care less but I can tell he's bothered by it.
When we landed, the three of us got a hotel at the same place (not to far from the airport) and FMIL loudly requested that she be put far away from us. Whatever!
So we get there, still and awkward silence in the rental car during the drive there, and FMIL puts on her GOTY face. She pretends to be happy, gets some baby rabies and snatches the newborn out of SILs arms. BIL walks over to her and snatches the baby back and gives him back to SIL. FMIL got a CBF and sat down.
Me and SO held the baby for a few minutes and then gave him back to SIL because he was fussy. She's breastfeeding! FMIL says "You should pump so we can spend some time with him. We did spend a small fortune traveling to see the baby".
SIL says: "Why? So you can play mommy with MY BABY? Sorry, but the only person I pump for is BIL and if you want his bottles then try snatching them from him." FMIL grunted and looked away from her.
BIL says: "Ma, I know you want to help, but that's our job to feed him." She didn't like his answer either. She was ready to go by then. Mind you, she completely ignored her other grandchildren who were happy to see her.
We go back to the hotel and FMIL's room is at the other end of the hall. She slams the door after she enters.
Mind you, before all this I did talk to an attorney. SO and MIL were PISSED that I did that. BEYOND PISSED. FMIL is not talking to me, she barely even looks my way when we are around each other. SO is also very bothered by it. With his garnishments and FMIL just closed on her condo (using her 401k) they don't have any money to even pool together to get an attorney in return. He PROMISES me that she did not mean what she said and it was only a joke. I don't agree and I told him it's only for saftey reasons.
The attorney gave me some excellent advice (very good) and it put me at ease and also encouraged me to make a backup plan. We fly back labor day because I have a doc appointment this coming week. We are supposed to go back to BIL and SILs for dinner tonight and if something happens over the weekend I will post again.
Oh crap, there was one more thing. FMIL asked me to buy two preorder books off Amazon before the grandparent's rights issue. She lives about 10-15 minutes from me and SO, and 4 minutes from SO's job. She mailed me a check for the books. SO gave me this strange look and said why couldn't she just drop the money off? He didn't say anything to his mom but you could see the look of embarassment on his face. I don't know why FMIL does the things she does but not to sound to parinoid, but I think she wanted to see if I could cash the check. WTH.
Anyways, those books came in the mail and she presented them at BIL and SILs. They asked her why she bought them and she said, because the last time I saw Grandchild1, he could not read the newspaper that well when we were reading it. (He's 13). She said that she feels bad that he's not at the reading level he should be and she bought the books to help him get to the level where he needs to be. BIL was furious but did not say anything. He took the books, walked over to the trash and threw them away. I wanted to leave so bad, so so bad. That was such an awkward situation. Can't believe I forgot about that part.
BIL and SIL still stand by their word that I'm going to have it much, much worse because SO is her favorite.
I asked SO what made him decide to stick up for me. His answer was this:
1. He was sick of me bitching about it.
2. He tried to gossip about the situation at work to his supervisor and co workers and it backfired. They totally took my side.
He says he knows his mom is a problem, but she doesn't get too crazy. She throws trantrums like the one she's throwing now but she always gets over it.
That's the update for now, I will update again if something happens this weekend and I have my email saved this time so I'm not locked out :-)