I posted this on my birth board and was told it might be a good idea to post here.
here is my Original post and the link to it because more came up with the situation as I was hearing from other members.
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a52011685/how_would_you_feel_i_dont_mind_honesty_long
"Ok so I don't really have a relationship with my MIL, she lives in Aspen, CO and I am in Tulsa, OK. The first time I met her did NOT go well, she completely bailed on our wedding and it was just all bad. Two years later everything was forgotten we had thanksgiving blah blah blah. Well she came out to visit when LO was a month old and I guess it went ok, we don't have anything in common so not much was said to each other. After she left I tired hard to keep her up to date with LO by sending pictures all the time, letting her know how appointments went and other things, But she still doesn't ever ask about me and we don't talk about anything else. I personally don't think she is a very nice person and am really shocked about some of the things my husband says about it childhood. Well she is coming out to visit this weekend and she asked my hubby if she could take LO back with her to the hotel room for one night, Hubby told her he would talk to me about it, so he did... I instantly got super nervous and protective BUT all I said was "let me think about it for a couple days" right after I said that my hubby lost it. He was so furious with me and saying that I shouldn't have anything to think about, it is his mother and I should let her take him because he lets my mom take him (Hubby and I lived with my mom for two years, we visit them every weekend and She has been around LO since birth) I was so upset I just went to bed. Well he asked me again today and I explained to him that I do not know his mother and it makes me to nervous to let her take him to some hotel without me being there. He goes on to say that LO is her only grandchild and she deserves alone time with him (idk why you need alone time with a 5 month old...) So I told him MIL is more then welcome to stay with us, she can put him to bed and get up with him in the morning and all that. Well apparently that isn't cutting it. Hubby wont even speak to me :-( but I just can't let LO go off with someone I don't know to a hotel, I tried to telling hubby its hard to explain when you aren't his mom but he just wont even listen to me anymore. What would you do?"
here is my Original post and the link to it because more came up with the situation as I was hearing from other members.
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a52011685/how_would_you_feel_i_dont_mind_honesty_long
"Ok so I don't really have a relationship with my MIL, she lives in Aspen, CO and I am in Tulsa, OK. The first time I met her did NOT go well, she completely bailed on our wedding and it was just all bad. Two years later everything was forgotten we had thanksgiving blah blah blah. Well she came out to visit when LO was a month old and I guess it went ok, we don't have anything in common so not much was said to each other. After she left I tired hard to keep her up to date with LO by sending pictures all the time, letting her know how appointments went and other things, But she still doesn't ever ask about me and we don't talk about anything else. I personally don't think she is a very nice person and am really shocked about some of the things my husband says about it childhood. Well she is coming out to visit this weekend and she asked my hubby if she could take LO back with her to the hotel room for one night, Hubby told her he would talk to me about it, so he did... I instantly got super nervous and protective BUT all I said was "let me think about it for a couple days" right after I said that my hubby lost it. He was so furious with me and saying that I shouldn't have anything to think about, it is his mother and I should let her take him because he lets my mom take him (Hubby and I lived with my mom for two years, we visit them every weekend and She has been around LO since birth) I was so upset I just went to bed. Well he asked me again today and I explained to him that I do not know his mother and it makes me to nervous to let her take him to some hotel without me being there. He goes on to say that LO is her only grandchild and she deserves alone time with him (idk why you need alone time with a 5 month old...) So I told him MIL is more then welcome to stay with us, she can put him to bed and get up with him in the morning and all that. Well apparently that isn't cutting it. Hubby wont even speak to me :-( but I just can't let LO go off with someone I don't know to a hotel, I tried to telling hubby its hard to explain when you aren't his mom but he just wont even listen to me anymore. What would you do?"