Am I being irrational? Am I out of line? Is it wrong that I want to stab this anal dwelling butt monkey in the throat? CAN I PLEASE CATCH A FUCKING BREAK FROM ALL THE DRAMA AND JUST ENJOY MY FAMILY??!?!?!
BG: Dw and I have been together almost 2 years. We have a 1 month old. She was previously married. When we met she was going through the divorce (already moved out, lived on her own. Independant.) Her XH (from now on refered to as Anal dwelling butt monkey, or ADBM for short) is a self centered asshole of the umpth degree who only cares about his daughter as a means to have control in DW life. (perceived or real, makes no difference.) and uses DSD (almost 4 now, barely 2 when me and DW got together.) to exert previously mentioned control over DW. Also, DSD was 2 when me and DW got together. She'll be 4 in Novemeber.
FF to today: Anal dwelling butt monkey text my DW and says (and I'm paraphrasing) "Can we talk? DSD is saying "xxxx" and I to talk to you so you can talk to NoBad and me and you can have a unified message. Tell him not to refert to himself as daddy around DSD anymore it confuses her. And I have to explain it to her. Also have you ever heard of "this is what happens when you call the police" cause DSD knows the song and said that NoBad taught her. You really need to tell him to put a filter on from now on"
EXCUSE THE FUCK OUT OF ME!?!?!?! I can't refer to myself as "daddy" with MY OWN CHILD because YOU don't want to explain to DSD how things are? Are you fucking kidding me?
And DSD claims (according to you) that I showed/taught her something that I'd neer even heard of until you brought it up? Really? Just like you say she claims that I "beat on her" right after me and DW got together? Just like you claim she told you that all I do is sit around the house and get drunk (I haven't had a drink in over 8 years because I don't drink) and EVERYONE who knows me can testify that I DO NOT DRINK?!?! The claims that he says DSD are making, and the shit he says she says isn't something that a normal 3 (4 yr) old says out of the blue. It seriously seems like he's asking her things and then trying to use it to start problems with me and DW.
Oh yeah his other problem is that when I'm out in public I refer to DSD and Bio-D both as "my girls" or "my daughters" when I run into people. As in: These are my daughters "DSD" and "Bio-d"
Call me stupid, but I figured that growing up and deliberately seperating them would cause feelings of resentment and anger. How nice would it be if someone kept introducing her as "This is OUR daughter, bio-d" and this is "DW Daughter DSD." I treat them equally because they are equal. I love them both equally and look at them both equally. They are both my daughters. Especially when DSD is with us for our week.
What is the proper DWIL course of action? How do I deal with this Anal dwelling butt monkey without shoving his face into shit creek until he drowns?
Ignoring him is not an option. DW work schedule is such that the weekly swap needs to be done by me since she will be at work.