This is going to be long and possibly a bit rambly but I need some outside insight in this situation with my in laws.
A few days ago we went to my in laws house because my MIL wanted to spend the day with LO. Prior to this date we have had a few spats with them but they have all been resolved rather quickly and they have always apologized, etc. I don't speak to my mother ( there's background on that if you want to look it up) so I try hard to maintain a positive relationship with my in laws.
Anyways we went over there in the morning. My SIL and niece were there and she was getting her ready for school. We walked in to my MIL screaming at my niece and my SIL screaming at her mom and her daughter. All over getting her hair brushed. Finally the situation calms a bit and we sit down at the table to talk about their plans for the day. We hear more screaming coming from her bedroom and my MIL remarks that this happens everyday and my husband asks his mom why she doesn't get her ready at home so that there isn't a big fight there in the morning.
His sister comes running out of the bedroom screaming at my husband telling him to mind his own fucking business and that it's her daughter and she will get her ready wherever the fuck she wants to and gets In his face. My husband tells her to stop screaming and get out of his face. She continued to taunt him and asks what he is going to do about it, he tells her that he isn't going to do anything and she isn't worth it and to get out of his face. She continues screaming until she slaps him across the face. MIL jumps up to get in the middle and my husband tells me to take LO outside. I go outside and cab still see inside and basically my husband keeps trying to walk away and she's screaming and hitting him. He walks outside and we leave with LO.
Later that day SIL starts sending both of us text messages saying that if my husband ever hits his bander again she's filing a police report and her boyfriend us going to kick both of our ass etc. We ignore them and he never laid a hand on her. It continues and I finally texted her back and told her to stop texting us because it was harassment and we have nothing to say to her. Then my mother in law starts calling me. I ignore it several times and then she starts texting saying that SIL told her that I called her a cunt and called her daughter a little bitch and told her that she was an awful parent etc.
I texted her and said I never said those things but I wasn't going to continue this childish behavior of arguing and texting back and forth.
My husband leaves for work and about an hour after I decide to take LO to the park. As I am getting him in the carseat MIL pulls up and comes over to me and I very politely say that I do not want to speak to her right now.
She starts screaming something about the police and then yelling at me that I'm a bad mother not her daughter that I'm the bad mother and that I'm a manipulative little bitch and that she hates me. She screams fuck you bitch etc. I tell her to leave before I have to call the cops. She then says to call the cops because she wants to file a child abuse complaint against me, I said for what? And she said that I will just have to find out. I call my husband at work because she wouldn't leave and continued to harass me and asked him to come home and deal with his mother. He did and called the police on the way home.
She is still screaming at me when the police get there, and eventually left because they told her to leave or be arrested.
Now I'm done with them. Cut off forever I don't care. I'm pregnant and have a 15 mo old son and I refuse to let my children around those people any longer. My husband is wonderful and supportive and agrees. However, it's his mother so I feel after time passes he will want to try to move past this.
Is this something you could ever move past? Or am I justified in cutting them out of my life for good?
A few days ago we went to my in laws house because my MIL wanted to spend the day with LO. Prior to this date we have had a few spats with them but they have all been resolved rather quickly and they have always apologized, etc. I don't speak to my mother ( there's background on that if you want to look it up) so I try hard to maintain a positive relationship with my in laws.
Anyways we went over there in the morning. My SIL and niece were there and she was getting her ready for school. We walked in to my MIL screaming at my niece and my SIL screaming at her mom and her daughter. All over getting her hair brushed. Finally the situation calms a bit and we sit down at the table to talk about their plans for the day. We hear more screaming coming from her bedroom and my MIL remarks that this happens everyday and my husband asks his mom why she doesn't get her ready at home so that there isn't a big fight there in the morning.
His sister comes running out of the bedroom screaming at my husband telling him to mind his own fucking business and that it's her daughter and she will get her ready wherever the fuck she wants to and gets In his face. My husband tells her to stop screaming and get out of his face. She continued to taunt him and asks what he is going to do about it, he tells her that he isn't going to do anything and she isn't worth it and to get out of his face. She continues screaming until she slaps him across the face. MIL jumps up to get in the middle and my husband tells me to take LO outside. I go outside and cab still see inside and basically my husband keeps trying to walk away and she's screaming and hitting him. He walks outside and we leave with LO.
Later that day SIL starts sending both of us text messages saying that if my husband ever hits his bander again she's filing a police report and her boyfriend us going to kick both of our ass etc. We ignore them and he never laid a hand on her. It continues and I finally texted her back and told her to stop texting us because it was harassment and we have nothing to say to her. Then my mother in law starts calling me. I ignore it several times and then she starts texting saying that SIL told her that I called her a cunt and called her daughter a little bitch and told her that she was an awful parent etc.
I texted her and said I never said those things but I wasn't going to continue this childish behavior of arguing and texting back and forth.
My husband leaves for work and about an hour after I decide to take LO to the park. As I am getting him in the carseat MIL pulls up and comes over to me and I very politely say that I do not want to speak to her right now.
She starts screaming something about the police and then yelling at me that I'm a bad mother not her daughter that I'm the bad mother and that I'm a manipulative little bitch and that she hates me. She screams fuck you bitch etc. I tell her to leave before I have to call the cops. She then says to call the cops because she wants to file a child abuse complaint against me, I said for what? And she said that I will just have to find out. I call my husband at work because she wouldn't leave and continued to harass me and asked him to come home and deal with his mother. He did and called the police on the way home.
She is still screaming at me when the police get there, and eventually left because they told her to leave or be arrested.
Now I'm done with them. Cut off forever I don't care. I'm pregnant and have a 15 mo old son and I refuse to let my children around those people any longer. My husband is wonderful and supportive and agrees. However, it's his mother so I feel after time passes he will want to try to move past this.
Is this something you could ever move past? Or am I justified in cutting them out of my life for good?