Hey all, I've been a lurker for a little less than a year. I knew that I needed help with my spine, my lurking helped me hhave the labor I wanted with my first baby DS, but, today my spine failed me in a major way.
Today after getting suckered into visiting my mil I was completely disrespected as a mom. DS is just hardly 3 months and ebf. I was eating and mil had d's in the kitchen with her - whatever no biggie. Until she comes out and announces "mommy is going to be maaaaaaaaaad." So I glare at her and she tells me she gave ds a taste test of the FUCKING BAKED BEANS. You know, syrup, brown sugar, canned joy. >_>
I was in serious shock,I knew I needed to say something but was not sure what to say since her own younger kids were present. I didn't want to disrespect her. (Feel free to roll your eyes.) So I but my cbf on and went to clear my plate in the kitchen. She said something along the lines of "oh I'm sorry....it's not like that was his first food right?" SHE KNOWS I EBF! So I said "actually it was, you stole that from me." She said she was sorry but she "had to do 1 gma thing" before I moved back across the country at the end of the month.
I honestly didn't know how to say what clearly needed to be said so I tried to calm down in the bathroom. When I came out she said that d's didn't reeeeeeallllly eat the beans. She only rubbed the juice on his lips which he then licked. -_-
I wound up having a panic attack and jaded and said I was leaving because my panic attack was from a med switch, not her actual bitchery. So I failed in such a major way dwil. I feel like an awful mom for not shutting that down asap. My dh is deployed and I'm so overwhelmed, I've been visiting her without him obviously which I already dread. What do I do? Do I let dh talk to her about it? Do I address it? Or let him do it as well as myself? Would I be out of line not letting her see him again before our move?
ETA she did apologize a few times saying she was really sorry for doing it. But Idk if I don't accept her apology because she's my bec or because what she did was pure fuckery.
Today after getting suckered into visiting my mil I was completely disrespected as a mom. DS is just hardly 3 months and ebf. I was eating and mil had d's in the kitchen with her - whatever no biggie. Until she comes out and announces "mommy is going to be maaaaaaaaaad." So I glare at her and she tells me she gave ds a taste test of the FUCKING BAKED BEANS. You know, syrup, brown sugar, canned joy. >_>
I was in serious shock,I knew I needed to say something but was not sure what to say since her own younger kids were present. I didn't want to disrespect her. (Feel free to roll your eyes.) So I but my cbf on and went to clear my plate in the kitchen. She said something along the lines of "oh I'm sorry....it's not like that was his first food right?" SHE KNOWS I EBF! So I said "actually it was, you stole that from me." She said she was sorry but she "had to do 1 gma thing" before I moved back across the country at the end of the month.
I honestly didn't know how to say what clearly needed to be said so I tried to calm down in the bathroom. When I came out she said that d's didn't reeeeeeallllly eat the beans. She only rubbed the juice on his lips which he then licked. -_-
I wound up having a panic attack and jaded and said I was leaving because my panic attack was from a med switch, not her actual bitchery. So I failed in such a major way dwil. I feel like an awful mom for not shutting that down asap. My dh is deployed and I'm so overwhelmed, I've been visiting her without him obviously which I already dread. What do I do? Do I let dh talk to her about it? Do I address it? Or let him do it as well as myself? Would I be out of line not letting her see him again before our move?
ETA she did apologize a few times saying she was really sorry for doing it. But Idk if I don't accept her apology because she's my bec or because what she did was pure fuckery.