My DD is dating a wonderful young man. The young man's mother is psycho. I have posted about her before. She is very demeaning toward women. She uses religion as an excuse. She has ordered my daughter to change clothes and presented her with clothes because she believes women are to be covered neck to ankles. My daughter was wearing a knee length dress at the time with short sleeves so she gave my daughter a t-shirt and jeans and demanded she change. She is very abusive toward her other son's fiance. The whole family is nasty toward the other young woman. This is just a short version of the whole thing.
My daughter has only dated this young man for 5 months. Then, on her college campus, my daughter was assaulted (not sexually) and withdrew. She is a young 18 yr old. The young man just started college at 20.5 yrs old because his parents are very controlling and would not allow him to go until then. After withdrawing, she ran to her boyfriend (Actually called him). They decided she will escape this by getting married.
The young man, so far, seems wonderful. He has said some judgemental things. He is not capable of financially supporting a family. Right now, he is at a college two hours away, because his parents would not allow him to go to the college he had a fullride at, near my daughter, because they said my daughter would just be a distraction. He is 100% financially dependent on his parents and unable to get that scholarship back because it was a freshman scholarship. My daughter was a National Merit scholar, but also suffers from anxiety and depression issues.
She insists she will marry this young man, on July 11, next summer. She plans to take all the money she is earning from her minimum wage job to pay for it. Between the two of them, they do not even own a car or have the ability to pay for an apartment. The only work the young man has done has been working for his brother. His brother openly abuses his fiance.
My husband and I agree that our daughter is an adult, so if she is going to get married, it is her choice. But I tried to tell my daughter to please give it one year of dating before she sets a date. And, since the young man will be financially dependant on his parents, she needs to spend time around them. At this point, she stays away from them because the mom has been so mean. The mom will also call me and inform me that when they are over here, I need to supervise them and watch them. She swears she just knows they will try to get away with something.
My daughter seems to have no clue what she is about to walk in to. What would you do?