DH's parents live in England. They visited when DD was born almost four years ago, and outstayed their welcome. I don't really speak to them. DH calls them every Saturday night when I put DD to bed. He has done for the last four years.
A few weeks ago FIL blew up at DH on the phone saying that DH is preventing them from having a relationship with their granddaughter. This is because DH never puts DD on the phone to talk to them. THIS is because DD is usually in bed and DD refuses to talk to anyone on the phone. Most importantly - ILs have NEVER asked to speak to DD. EVER.
DH pointed this out to ILs. They hung up.
I can't believe that ILs have the audacity to be angry because we haven't trotted DD out like a show-pony. It's like they are so entitled they feel we should just know it is our 'duty' to put DD on the phone to them.
They haven't exactly tried to nurture their relationship with DD in other ways - ie, they know she LOVES reading, but have never sent her even an inexpensive little book. Or a postcard. They once sent her a poster that came free from a newspaper. They take their other grandchildren on a two week holiday to France every summer. DD will maybe get a discount T-shirt for her birthday (with the 'Clearance' sticker still on the tag.)
They have never even said 'Okay DH, we will call DD at such time." Nothing.
Were we MEANT to know that we HAD to get DD to talk to ILs on the phone? Am I the only one who thinks they are acting like entitled brats?