Or at least that's what she thinks.
I'm new to this whole setting boundaries stuff with her. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and she had made my life hell through out the whole pregnancy. She normally would just ignore my dh and I which was fine by me after her saying some very racist hurtful things about me I really wanted nothing more to do with her.
Just to give examples of what she's done so far (I've posted before but it was a while ago) ask how her baby is (referring to my daughter that I'm carrying), before we knew the sex said that she wouldn't be excited if it was a boy, argued with me over who I would allow to visit at the hospital, argued with me on what my dh aunts and cousins would be called (they have a very big tight close nit family), tried to convince me to use formula (I've chosen to breast feed souly), has gotten her lovely wedge in the middle of my dh and I with asking me a question and then asking him so then we argue, on a number of times given me a call saying she'd be her with out of town guests to see me, AND texts me/calls to check up on the baby not me but the baby because she's sure I'm going to miscarry.
That's what happened yesterday and seeing as I'm HUGE or feel HUGE I don't sleep well at night I sleep in really late (I'm sure that no one understands that lol) she's woken me up a number of times but yesterday I put my foot down because I'm sick of it. She literally JUST saw me she doesn't need an update every three days!
I texted her back saying " everything is fine, I know your excited but if you could please refrain from texting me as I don't sleep well at night and sleep in I'm the mornings or take naps during the day. I leave my phone on for dh and for doctors. We will let you know as soon as anything significant happens"
Apparently that was enough to make her start texting my husband (using that lovely wedge she has /thinks she has) he texts me asking if she had texted I called explained the whole thing and he calls her saying that the text wasn't meant to be mean (which it wasn't I had another text I wanted to send if I wanted to be mean) and that this is our child not hers or my mom's but ours! She didn't speak to him. I called MIL's boyfriend who had been a saint and explained what happened (he wasn't around for all this) they had just come home from a weekend cruise and apparently she was freaking that the baby would be born while she was in the cruise so she was blaming him for everything and being well, crazy!
My dh came home and we talked and he said that I probably should of given times not to call in hind sight it's probably true. Then he hits on saying how I need to give her updates in what's happening and that I update my mom more than her. I told him she knows exactly what is happening and I don't text my mom with updates she hears them when I offer the info which is sporadic. I'm not going to text MIL each time I go to the doctor or each day because she's crazy.
We still NEED to sit down with her and talk it over amongst other things and I have a feeling it's going to end up much the same with her crying and trying to peg me as the big bad bitch.
Guess my question is should I apologize for not putting a time on the refrain from texting or let it be and lay down the rules of our child and her birthing process and who will raise our child? Sorry it was so long, I'm so done with this lady.
I'm new to this whole setting boundaries stuff with her. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and she had made my life hell through out the whole pregnancy. She normally would just ignore my dh and I which was fine by me after her saying some very racist hurtful things about me I really wanted nothing more to do with her.
Just to give examples of what she's done so far (I've posted before but it was a while ago) ask how her baby is (referring to my daughter that I'm carrying), before we knew the sex said that she wouldn't be excited if it was a boy, argued with me over who I would allow to visit at the hospital, argued with me on what my dh aunts and cousins would be called (they have a very big tight close nit family), tried to convince me to use formula (I've chosen to breast feed souly), has gotten her lovely wedge in the middle of my dh and I with asking me a question and then asking him so then we argue, on a number of times given me a call saying she'd be her with out of town guests to see me, AND texts me/calls to check up on the baby not me but the baby because she's sure I'm going to miscarry.
That's what happened yesterday and seeing as I'm HUGE or feel HUGE I don't sleep well at night I sleep in really late (I'm sure that no one understands that lol) she's woken me up a number of times but yesterday I put my foot down because I'm sick of it. She literally JUST saw me she doesn't need an update every three days!
I texted her back saying " everything is fine, I know your excited but if you could please refrain from texting me as I don't sleep well at night and sleep in I'm the mornings or take naps during the day. I leave my phone on for dh and for doctors. We will let you know as soon as anything significant happens"
Apparently that was enough to make her start texting my husband (using that lovely wedge she has /thinks she has) he texts me asking if she had texted I called explained the whole thing and he calls her saying that the text wasn't meant to be mean (which it wasn't I had another text I wanted to send if I wanted to be mean) and that this is our child not hers or my mom's but ours! She didn't speak to him. I called MIL's boyfriend who had been a saint and explained what happened (he wasn't around for all this) they had just come home from a weekend cruise and apparently she was freaking that the baby would be born while she was in the cruise so she was blaming him for everything and being well, crazy!
My dh came home and we talked and he said that I probably should of given times not to call in hind sight it's probably true. Then he hits on saying how I need to give her updates in what's happening and that I update my mom more than her. I told him she knows exactly what is happening and I don't text my mom with updates she hears them when I offer the info which is sporadic. I'm not going to text MIL each time I go to the doctor or each day because she's crazy.
We still NEED to sit down with her and talk it over amongst other things and I have a feeling it's going to end up much the same with her crying and trying to peg me as the big bad bitch.
Guess my question is should I apologize for not putting a time on the refrain from texting or let it be and lay down the rules of our child and her birthing process and who will raise our child? Sorry it was so long, I'm so done with this lady.