Hardcore obsession. Big time, crazy, stalker like obsession. I wrote about her before, but because the thread got down, I'm not sure I can link it. So, I won't chance it.
Let me say the background of LO's dad and I. We will call him R. R and I split shortly after the birth of LO. LO is now seven months old. we have been on and off since. He very much has a "faaaaaamily" is everything mentality, and because of my problems with some of his sisters, it's caused a lot of issues between us. We have been trying to work it out lately, but it's been a long road. We currently live seperately.
Long story short, so I don't have to type it all again, R's sister(who we will call Anne) well, we had gotten into a big argument a long time ago and she said she was going to call child services to get back at me. So I told her to stay away from my child and I. The way I view it is if you will try and hurt my child to hurt me, you shouldn't be around him.
Well I foolishly went to her sisters wedding, one who I got along with. When LO had been with a family member, I had stupidly stepped away for a minute. When I came back, Anne was holding LO. I asked her to give me LO back. She said NOPE. I told her it's my kid, give him back. And she started screaming and swearing at the top of her lungs. To sum it all up, her sister shoved me around, Anne and her sister physically blocked me from getting LO for over an hour, they followed me around the property screaming and swearing, they said things like "I wish I was rich so I could hire a hitman to kill you" and "I wish you'd died in your post partum hemorrhage." She tried to attack me. She threatened to call the cops with a lie saying I hit her. They threw all my stuff at me but refused to let me grab my own child. They wouldn't stop, despite R's best efforts and some of his family members. They did all of this in front of my child.
So I told R no more. No more family parties for LO, no more being around Anne for LO. He fought me on it for a while, that no matter what they did they were "faaaaaamily." It was one of the hardest things I've done, but I wouldn't even let R take LO unsupervised because I know he would let Anne around him. He never had the balls to stand up to her.
But now I've learned something extremely creepy. For months now, she literally posts a picture of my LO once a week. I have her blocked and deleted and have for a long time. The thing is, she uses these pictures to post about me, things such as...
"I love you so much (LO's name) I'm so sorry you're being used as a tool to hurt others..."
"I will fight a war to see you... Can't use this sweet baby boy to hurt others.. I'm so sorry you're being used as a tool..."
"This was a picture sent to me of my brother and his son. I'm missing out on so much do to someone being selfish..."
"It's been two whole months since I've seen you... It's not fair your mother is using you for her own gain... Love and miss you so much..."
These go on and on. I mean I received well over 30 snapshots of these things from a friend. Then in the comments, she tells everyone how I'm so selfish, I'm a cunt, trash, slob, bitch, it goes on and on. Her friends and her go back and forth about how I'm a terrible mother who cares more about smoking cigarettes then caring for LO. What really gets me is her friends remark saying LO would be "fucked up" in the head for having a mother like me. How can you bring an innocent baby into this?
She says things like it's her nephew, if she wants to hold him, she can. She tells everyone I keep LO from R and her family... The only person I keep LO from is her and her sister who put her hands on me.
She tells everyone I don't let her see my LO for the lamest reasons I've probably ever heard. Her first excuse was that I was jealous she gave my LO attention instead of me. Her second one was that she "called me out" on my bullshit and I didn't take well to it. The third was she "called me out" on how I was raising her nephew poorly.
She's having other people harass me now. I block them as they come.
Okay, I think you get my point. These go on and on. Well, when she posted something saying how I'm a liar, she never shit talked me on fb like I told people, what happened at her sisters wedding never happened, and then with ANOTHER bs excuse on why I don't let her see LO. I haven't been engaging, I still refuse to talk to her. But R finally had it. He commented with two sentences calling her out for lying. She wrote three huge paragraphs back.
But now she won't stop. She's been blowing up his phone, screaming and swearing all day long. He won't pick up so she just keeps calling, and calling, and calling. She will never stop posting about me, she made that clear to him. He said he can tell she knows she's wrong, but she's backed so far into a corner she will find ANY excuse to be right. On the phone when she said she never talked about me on fb, he read a direct quote to her. She said we "misinterpreted" it. Literally crazy.
She's never going to give up. Never give up on seeing LO. Never give up on posting. She made that clear, even when R told her to stay away. She won't stop harassing him, and when I talked to him, he seemed like he wanted to have a break down. For two sentences, she's been flipping out all day at him, calling and calling and showing up at his house. (He's staying with his parents, so he can't just tell her to leave.)
I feel like he will never cut her off, because she's "faaaamily." But if he tries to stand up to her, she does this. I just want to be left alone and have peace. I'm worried she's going to get into his mind and make him want to cave. And then he's going to pressure me, and it's going to ruin any chance at fixing this we have. What do I do?
Now my other question. I'd been getting along with one of his sisters, who will call Sally, but then found out she was the one sending Anne the pictures. She was also participating a little, such as liking comments and making small snide remarks. I blocked her on fb too. She FLIPPED out at me. Freaked, because now she doesn't have access to pictures of LO. Is this something I should forgive and forget? Or no, because she's sending these pictures that are fueling Anne's fire?
I can ignore the fb posts. They creep me out im not going to lie. They piss me off. But to hear things like she's "never giving up"? I just want to be left alone! Would not engaging continue to be the best thing to do? Because it seems to be fueling her fire more, if that's possible! And I just don't know what to do about Sally. Advice is appreciated!
Let me say the background of LO's dad and I. We will call him R. R and I split shortly after the birth of LO. LO is now seven months old. we have been on and off since. He very much has a "faaaaaamily" is everything mentality, and because of my problems with some of his sisters, it's caused a lot of issues between us. We have been trying to work it out lately, but it's been a long road. We currently live seperately.
Long story short, so I don't have to type it all again, R's sister(who we will call Anne) well, we had gotten into a big argument a long time ago and she said she was going to call child services to get back at me. So I told her to stay away from my child and I. The way I view it is if you will try and hurt my child to hurt me, you shouldn't be around him.
Well I foolishly went to her sisters wedding, one who I got along with. When LO had been with a family member, I had stupidly stepped away for a minute. When I came back, Anne was holding LO. I asked her to give me LO back. She said NOPE. I told her it's my kid, give him back. And she started screaming and swearing at the top of her lungs. To sum it all up, her sister shoved me around, Anne and her sister physically blocked me from getting LO for over an hour, they followed me around the property screaming and swearing, they said things like "I wish I was rich so I could hire a hitman to kill you" and "I wish you'd died in your post partum hemorrhage." She tried to attack me. She threatened to call the cops with a lie saying I hit her. They threw all my stuff at me but refused to let me grab my own child. They wouldn't stop, despite R's best efforts and some of his family members. They did all of this in front of my child.
So I told R no more. No more family parties for LO, no more being around Anne for LO. He fought me on it for a while, that no matter what they did they were "faaaaaamily." It was one of the hardest things I've done, but I wouldn't even let R take LO unsupervised because I know he would let Anne around him. He never had the balls to stand up to her.
But now I've learned something extremely creepy. For months now, she literally posts a picture of my LO once a week. I have her blocked and deleted and have for a long time. The thing is, she uses these pictures to post about me, things such as...
"I love you so much (LO's name) I'm so sorry you're being used as a tool to hurt others..."
"I will fight a war to see you... Can't use this sweet baby boy to hurt others.. I'm so sorry you're being used as a tool..."
"This was a picture sent to me of my brother and his son. I'm missing out on so much do to someone being selfish..."
"It's been two whole months since I've seen you... It's not fair your mother is using you for her own gain... Love and miss you so much..."
These go on and on. I mean I received well over 30 snapshots of these things from a friend. Then in the comments, she tells everyone how I'm so selfish, I'm a cunt, trash, slob, bitch, it goes on and on. Her friends and her go back and forth about how I'm a terrible mother who cares more about smoking cigarettes then caring for LO. What really gets me is her friends remark saying LO would be "fucked up" in the head for having a mother like me. How can you bring an innocent baby into this?
She says things like it's her nephew, if she wants to hold him, she can. She tells everyone I keep LO from R and her family... The only person I keep LO from is her and her sister who put her hands on me.
She tells everyone I don't let her see my LO for the lamest reasons I've probably ever heard. Her first excuse was that I was jealous she gave my LO attention instead of me. Her second one was that she "called me out" on my bullshit and I didn't take well to it. The third was she "called me out" on how I was raising her nephew poorly.
She's having other people harass me now. I block them as they come.
Okay, I think you get my point. These go on and on. Well, when she posted something saying how I'm a liar, she never shit talked me on fb like I told people, what happened at her sisters wedding never happened, and then with ANOTHER bs excuse on why I don't let her see LO. I haven't been engaging, I still refuse to talk to her. But R finally had it. He commented with two sentences calling her out for lying. She wrote three huge paragraphs back.
But now she won't stop. She's been blowing up his phone, screaming and swearing all day long. He won't pick up so she just keeps calling, and calling, and calling. She will never stop posting about me, she made that clear to him. He said he can tell she knows she's wrong, but she's backed so far into a corner she will find ANY excuse to be right. On the phone when she said she never talked about me on fb, he read a direct quote to her. She said we "misinterpreted" it. Literally crazy.
She's never going to give up. Never give up on seeing LO. Never give up on posting. She made that clear, even when R told her to stay away. She won't stop harassing him, and when I talked to him, he seemed like he wanted to have a break down. For two sentences, she's been flipping out all day at him, calling and calling and showing up at his house. (He's staying with his parents, so he can't just tell her to leave.)
I feel like he will never cut her off, because she's "faaaamily." But if he tries to stand up to her, she does this. I just want to be left alone and have peace. I'm worried she's going to get into his mind and make him want to cave. And then he's going to pressure me, and it's going to ruin any chance at fixing this we have. What do I do?
Now my other question. I'd been getting along with one of his sisters, who will call Sally, but then found out she was the one sending Anne the pictures. She was also participating a little, such as liking comments and making small snide remarks. I blocked her on fb too. She FLIPPED out at me. Freaked, because now she doesn't have access to pictures of LO. Is this something I should forgive and forget? Or no, because she's sending these pictures that are fueling Anne's fire?
I can ignore the fb posts. They creep me out im not going to lie. They piss me off. But to hear things like she's "never giving up"? I just want to be left alone! Would not engaging continue to be the best thing to do? Because it seems to be fueling her fire more, if that's possible! And I just don't know what to do about Sally. Advice is appreciated!