my bb sent me here to advice.
My MIL is our "nanny" and has been very helpful mostly. She has had a problem overstepping boundary with both DD (3 months) and my DSD who is 3.5. DH usually gives her free pass with DSD because she has helped raise her.
Today my MIL left with both girls to a city three hours away. We live in the South, and she wanted to take them to an "activity" and didn't think we would care. I left work early because I wast feeling well and came home to find an empty house.
When I asked what activity it was she would not tell me. She just said "will it change how you feel about it, Remy?" Well no but I hve a right to know anyway. I'm so frustrated
MIL insisted she did nothing wrong and refuses to talk. DH says he understands why I'm frustrated but I "don't get it" because that's "just how his mom is."
I don't know what to do! I want her to understand and know that this is not ok! And I want DH on my team.
Do I no let her watch DD anymore? DSD is in a preschool program 3 days/week but I know DH will continue sending her with MIL even if I don't let her keep DD anymore.
I'm scared a bit too how DH will react to me saying MIL cannot be alone with DD anymore. He's siding with her and I'm not sure how to make him see how serious this is
Please help!
My MIL is our "nanny" and has been very helpful mostly. She has had a problem overstepping boundary with both DD (3 months) and my DSD who is 3.5. DH usually gives her free pass with DSD because she has helped raise her.
Today my MIL left with both girls to a city three hours away. We live in the South, and she wanted to take them to an "activity" and didn't think we would care. I left work early because I wast feeling well and came home to find an empty house.
When I asked what activity it was she would not tell me. She just said "will it change how you feel about it, Remy?" Well no but I hve a right to know anyway. I'm so frustrated
MIL insisted she did nothing wrong and refuses to talk. DH says he understands why I'm frustrated but I "don't get it" because that's "just how his mom is."
I don't know what to do! I want her to understand and know that this is not ok! And I want DH on my team.
Do I no let her watch DD anymore? DSD is in a preschool program 3 days/week but I know DH will continue sending her with MIL even if I don't let her keep DD anymore.
I'm scared a bit too how DH will react to me saying MIL cannot be alone with DD anymore. He's siding with her and I'm not sure how to make him see how serious this is
Please help!