Hi.
This is my third post, my last one was about my mom and the other about my MIL.
I don't really know my MIL very well but she showed some BSC tendencies and I immediately put her on a TO cause I've had enough drama in my life.
My husband had a son with a woman who was a rebound a few months before we got together. Since then the relationship with the mother has been rocky at best. She does have a limited relationship with his parents since she was a family friend.
My MIL was not happy with the limited involvement my husband has with the mother and their son. She also felt like I was trying to keep him away from his son when that couldn't be further from the truth. It's the mother that makes things hard for us.
Well my MIL took it upon herself to bad mouth my husband to anyone who would listen saying that he was a bad father and that he "abandoned" his son. The usual, he's a deadbeat dad stuff. We do pay child support and see him when we can.
The straw that broke the camel's back for me though was she went to my mother (who she had met maybe twice at that point) to "tattle" on us. She told her the same things and was trying to get her to join her in trying to force more of a relationship between my husband and his son. I'm not sure what she said exactly but MIL texted me afterwards and sent me a picture of my husband's son and said that he will leave me one day and I will be alone with my daughter.
I texted her back calmly saying, the relationship we have with my husband's son is none of your business. We are doing what we can and its not my fault that the mother doesn't want more involvement. I hope you enjoyed the last time you saw my daughter since it will be your last.
Then I blocked her.
I know this is convoluted and I can clarify if need be. I know this might not seem like a big deal but it was just so out of the blue for me that I just couldn't deal with any drama at the time. I was finishing school and just had a baby. I had my own stuff with my mom going on. I couldn't deal.
Well this all happened last year. Haven't seen her since last February. Well now my SFIL is calling my husband and she's texting. He hasn't responded and doesn't seem to want to. But I'm afraid eventually he will. If he does, I'm unsure if I want any sort of relationship with her. If he does bring it up should I just say no, I don't want anything to do with her or has enough time has passed that if I had clear cut rules I should try?
Thanks for reading.
This is my third post, my last one was about my mom and the other about my MIL.
I don't really know my MIL very well but she showed some BSC tendencies and I immediately put her on a TO cause I've had enough drama in my life.
My husband had a son with a woman who was a rebound a few months before we got together. Since then the relationship with the mother has been rocky at best. She does have a limited relationship with his parents since she was a family friend.
My MIL was not happy with the limited involvement my husband has with the mother and their son. She also felt like I was trying to keep him away from his son when that couldn't be further from the truth. It's the mother that makes things hard for us.
Well my MIL took it upon herself to bad mouth my husband to anyone who would listen saying that he was a bad father and that he "abandoned" his son. The usual, he's a deadbeat dad stuff. We do pay child support and see him when we can.
The straw that broke the camel's back for me though was she went to my mother (who she had met maybe twice at that point) to "tattle" on us. She told her the same things and was trying to get her to join her in trying to force more of a relationship between my husband and his son. I'm not sure what she said exactly but MIL texted me afterwards and sent me a picture of my husband's son and said that he will leave me one day and I will be alone with my daughter.
I texted her back calmly saying, the relationship we have with my husband's son is none of your business. We are doing what we can and its not my fault that the mother doesn't want more involvement. I hope you enjoyed the last time you saw my daughter since it will be your last.
Then I blocked her.
I know this is convoluted and I can clarify if need be. I know this might not seem like a big deal but it was just so out of the blue for me that I just couldn't deal with any drama at the time. I was finishing school and just had a baby. I had my own stuff with my mom going on. I couldn't deal.
Well this all happened last year. Haven't seen her since last February. Well now my SFIL is calling my husband and she's texting. He hasn't responded and doesn't seem to want to. But I'm afraid eventually he will. If he does, I'm unsure if I want any sort of relationship with her. If he does bring it up should I just say no, I don't want anything to do with her or has enough time has passed that if I had clear cut rules I should try?
Thanks for reading.