Ok, so my background is here under another name but I'll make it short and sweet.
My parents are awful people that did everything in their power to isolate their children from the world and each other. They are toxic, manipulative and tried to get my brothers to help them take my ODD. It took many years of therapy to CO my parent and I have BH any contact for 5 yrs.
They only reach out when they want something. After giving them tens of thousands of dollar and putting a downpayment on a house and co-signing they lost said house last year.When they were losing the house they tried to contact me. (This is important for later) They called my cell but since I haven't responded in 5yrs I'm sure they assumed the number was different. The were able to get in contact with my XH through his job. He acted as if we were married and ran interference. She claimed my father was dying so in a moment of weakness I asked my XH to handle it. My mother cursed him out and said if I wasn't going to speak to her directly then I didn't deserve to know what was going on.
So now I received a message through a cousin that my mother couldn't reach me. Lies...as mention before. The message was that my father has brain cancer and a short time to live. Knowing that my mother is a colossal liar, I contacted the hospital directly and he is there. They won't give any information and I was directed to my mother. Not gonna happen. I gave the information to all of my siblings and only 1 has decided to reach out.
I feel sick. Not because my father is dying but because my mother will go crazy and I'm the only one of their 7-8 kids that lives here. The last time he was ill I received a message that it was the fault of me and my sibling and she would "get us all". She is insane and I wouldn't put it past her to try to kill me. Now what? WTF am I supposed to do? I can't just move away and I am as hidden as I can be.