This may get a little long so I apologize in advance; I know this is an advice board, but I just wanted to share a story about my SM and how much she rocks!
My step mom is absolutely awesome! I was actually the matchmaker for her and my dad. She is one of my SO's friends' mothers.
I've never had any issue with her about anything, and she has been great through my whole pregnancy. Today she made a comment, that when/if I decided to go back to work she would be available to babysit anytime, which I have no problem with.
Everything in my town is seriously overstaffed, hardly any place is hiring. The only place that is always hiring (IF I decided to start working again) has really crappy inconsistent hours; I could work from 3pm to 12am and have to be back at 4am to 1pm. (I know this because I am friends with a few girls that work there now. Rollovers are a bitch but the manager doesn't seem to care how the schedules are setup as long as she has people working.)
Anywhooo...SM told me today, "Well if you ever had to do that it wouldnt make sense for you to bring LO home just to bring him back in the morning, so he could just stay here overnight! We already have a crib and things for him at our house." (Her daughter is also preggo with her 2nd, and her DS who is 1 stays with them on occassion.)
I told her no, I wouldn't be comfortable with that because it would be something happening very frequently, probably most of the week because of the hours at the job are all over the place and very inconsistent. Plus my SO would be home nights and would be able to take care of LO if I was working night shift.
My dad proceeded to say, "No, (SO) will have to wake up early for work too (he doesn't have to be at work until 9am and gets off at 4pm) and won't be able to stay up with LO while you are either asleep or working, so we will just watch him. We have everything he needs here."
This is the first time my dad has declared what he thinks will be done with LO, and thanks to this board I knew I had to shut down this thinking quickly.
"No, Dad, LO is our son and WE want to be the ones to raise him, which isn't what would be happening if he was staying here with you overnight 4-6 days a week. (SO) agrees with me, he has told me he wouldn't have any problems taking care of LO on his own if I happened to go back to work.
My SM, bless her heart, chimed in real quick to say, "We would never try to take you or (SO's) parenting role, just know we are here whenever you need us!" Dad quickly agreed. Gotta love her.
A little extra information in case anyone is wondering, SM and Dad live about 30 minutes away, where there is no cell service and they don't have a home phone, so this makes overnighters just a tad uncomfortable for me.
IF I decided to go back to work after I have LO, my MIL lives about 70 feet from us, and would be able to watch him inbetween me and my SO's shifts if need be.
Thanks DWIL, without this board I might not have realized my Dad probably just wants LO to basically live with him! :)
My step mom is absolutely awesome! I was actually the matchmaker for her and my dad. She is one of my SO's friends' mothers.
I've never had any issue with her about anything, and she has been great through my whole pregnancy. Today she made a comment, that when/if I decided to go back to work she would be available to babysit anytime, which I have no problem with.
Everything in my town is seriously overstaffed, hardly any place is hiring. The only place that is always hiring (IF I decided to start working again) has really crappy inconsistent hours; I could work from 3pm to 12am and have to be back at 4am to 1pm. (I know this because I am friends with a few girls that work there now. Rollovers are a bitch but the manager doesn't seem to care how the schedules are setup as long as she has people working.)
Anywhooo...SM told me today, "Well if you ever had to do that it wouldnt make sense for you to bring LO home just to bring him back in the morning, so he could just stay here overnight! We already have a crib and things for him at our house." (Her daughter is also preggo with her 2nd, and her DS who is 1 stays with them on occassion.)
I told her no, I wouldn't be comfortable with that because it would be something happening very frequently, probably most of the week because of the hours at the job are all over the place and very inconsistent. Plus my SO would be home nights and would be able to take care of LO if I was working night shift.
My dad proceeded to say, "No, (SO) will have to wake up early for work too (he doesn't have to be at work until 9am and gets off at 4pm) and won't be able to stay up with LO while you are either asleep or working, so we will just watch him. We have everything he needs here."
This is the first time my dad has declared what he thinks will be done with LO, and thanks to this board I knew I had to shut down this thinking quickly.
"No, Dad, LO is our son and WE want to be the ones to raise him, which isn't what would be happening if he was staying here with you overnight 4-6 days a week. (SO) agrees with me, he has told me he wouldn't have any problems taking care of LO on his own if I happened to go back to work.
My SM, bless her heart, chimed in real quick to say, "We would never try to take you or (SO's) parenting role, just know we are here whenever you need us!" Dad quickly agreed. Gotta love her.
A little extra information in case anyone is wondering, SM and Dad live about 30 minutes away, where there is no cell service and they don't have a home phone, so this makes overnighters just a tad uncomfortable for me.
IF I decided to go back to work after I have LO, my MIL lives about 70 feet from us, and would be able to watch him inbetween me and my SO's shifts if need be.
Thanks DWIL, without this board I might not have realized my Dad probably just wants LO to basically live with him! :)