I'm really starting to feel pretty miserable right now. My husband lets his family treat me (and him) like a dog! I mean it is super bad. I could tell you some crazy stories but I'm pretty embarassed that I ever put up with it. My husband ALWAYS takes up for them and comes up with some off the wall reason why they are not wrong. I stood up to them one time. Actually, I had enough and went off on them. Don't worry, they responded... even down to my FIL physically threatening me (yeah he's a deacon of the VERY conservative church we attend). My husband sided with them.... even down to cussing me and yelling at me in front of them. He talk about me like I'm a dog to them. Why? Because he didn't want to upset mommy and daddy and when he started to take my side they turned on him..... he couldn't take that so things changed real fast. They went around telling LIES to everyone in the church and family. The told CRAZY stuff like I physically abused my husband (yeah, I'm 100lb, really?) and destroyed his stuff. I had MIL's family (Drama queen hypocrits) attacking me. Of course DH isn't going to tell everyone it's false. He refuses to bring it up to people unless they mention it to us. He absolutely refuses to say ANYTHING negative about his parents... even that they lies. He says it will just get back to them he was talking about them and start more drama. MIL and FIL have known the people and kept face with them their whole lives. I'm realatively new to the situation so whose going to listen to me. Irony is, I blew up and went of on his family because of the way they treat HIM!.
Fast forward to current.... Now that we are expecting our first (Their first grandchild) their attitude is much better (because they want to be around our baby). However, I know they are just using me. My husband refuses to go to any other church except the one he grew up in (where my name was drug through the mud by MIL - the piano player and FIL -deacon). We have to go in and sit as close to his family as possible (same pew or pew behind) and wait to talk to them after church. I'm put down because I refuse to go to MIL's family get together every Sunday after church. They pressure DH to go and in return he tells me his grandparents are going to die and he's not going to have even spent any time with them. Sunday is our ONLY day together! Every mention of ILs (even oh that gag gift was tacky) and I am put down for talking bad about people by DH. Seriously, after the lies they told about me. Believe it or not, other than this DH and I have a GREAT relationship. I'm starting to resent him over all this. I feel there are wounds that will never heal. He will never change and I am getting miserable. We don't believe in divorce but I want out. We like in the middle of nowhere and things are just kinda different in the country. I have not support system. My family would never support me in leaving him (they don't support divorce). I have friends but many of them moved away and the rest are married with kids. I'm a teacher with student loans and a car payment so what am I supposed to do?
Sorry so long! I got carried away.