some BG but not even a fraction of it: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a43457839/i_think_i_screwed_up_update_4?cpg=4&pd=-1
Ran into Target for a few things they had on sale and I see my sister. Not a big deal except she lives in NYC and comes up to stay with my parents so I knew if she was there, my parents would be too. (potential FM because she's openly their favorite and can do no wrong) Said Hi really quick and I saw my mom walk by the aisle ignoring us. (she has US on a TO I knew it! Fucking bitch)
I immediately turn to my DH and say "lets go". He had a DuH moment and started asking about what we were going to do, where were were going to put our stuff. "Are we going to just drop the cart and leave?" "do we put our stuff back?" "You're mom was ignoring us" WTF LET'S GO! STOP TALKING ABOUT IT!
It was too late, my dad came at us. My sister must has told him we were there and he went to look for us. He is pretty much collatoral damage but not completely innocent. He didn't say much to us and we ignored him, and he just talked to DD, picked her up out of the cart, gave her a kiss, asked her if she was going to the birthday party today. (we aren't specifically because I knew they would be there)
I dont know how long it was... maybe 2 or 3 minutes? it felt like forever, after we left right away. I was so pissed. Pissed at DH for just standing there trying to discuss "strategy" in a GTFO situtation, pissed at myself for not just immediately picking DD up out of the cart and running out of the store, and pissed because they ruined my day. We didn't have enough time before naptime to go back and get what we needed so we just went home. 
Ugh I'm still upset about this. I knew it was a possibility I might run into them but I always just figured I'd leave right away. I guess I needed to relay that plan to DH though. Lesson learned! Make sure you go over escape plans with your SOs everyone!
Now I'm worried they might show up sometime around her birthday. At least my dad might. My mom might still be "punishing" me. Im not sure what im going to do if they happen to show up during her party. I'll probably try and tell them to leave, but i dont know if i can keep my cool so thats probably not a good idea. and I won't call the police to a 2 year old's birthday party with a bunch of our friends and co-workers there. i dont know! I can't think straight right now.
I guess one good thing about this is that i know now that I don't even want an apology out of my mother anymore. I'm completely done with her even if she apologized. Just seeing her walk by ignoring us filled me with so much rage. I'm just done! and that feels good, but im still mad I saw her profile even the .02 seconds was too long.