I've never posted in this group before but started lurking. I was just on my birth board and found this gem (and not sarcastic) when someone mentioned it. I hope you ladies will be able to offer me some suggestions.
I haven't not spoken to my mother in three weeks. BG-we have a twisted relationship where one moment we talk all the time and are super close to the next moment, not speaking, and butting heads. It has been so difficult over the years because my mom is the type to never apologize or admit doing any wrong. I can be the bigger person and admit when I'm wrong but she, unfortunately, can't.
Our current fight happened three weeks ago at my LO's first birthday. My brother decided he'd rather go camping then go to his only nephew's first birthday and I had a big problem with this. My mom tells me not to say anything, he works hard, and I shouldn't be mad at him. She says he got LO a nice gift and he really loves him. To me gifts don't matter. It is about being present in the moment. When LO looks back at pictures and Uncle Josh isn't there what will I tell him..."oh Uncle Josh couldn't make it because he wanted to go camping instead." Anyways, by the day of the party I had let it go. Well a couple days earlier my sister and I got into an argument. I let it go and didn't think anything of it. Well, at the party my mother wouldn't talk to me. When my family was leaving she wouldn't even hug me goodbye. I didn't really know why but I thought maybe we were just all so preoccupied with the party. Well....the next day at work my coworker/friend told me how my mother cornered her at the party trash talking me. Apparently, my mother said that I was lucky anyone from our family went to the party. They only went because of LO and if it had anything to do with me they wouldn't have showed. She said more stuff but this was several weeks ago so I forgot.
I ended up sending her an email basically saying how unacceptable I found this-it being said to a coworker and at LO's birthday. I pretty much CO after I sent the email. If she feels it's okay to say these things about me to people she doesn't know, what is stopping her from saying bad things about me to LO when he is bigger?
I have read some pretty difficult relationships people on this board have so I feel pretty petty writing this but I don't know if I should do what I always do and apologize or stand my ground. My SO's father just passed away which made me think about family. I don't want to let more time go by and let the rift get bigger and bigger.
What do you think I should do?