So today we found out that we're having a girl. which is wonderful news. I was spot on for the gender. Now while I wanted a boy for a couple of reasons, I don't mind a girl. Now the one reason I was dreading having a girl was because of my SO's mom. And her reaction was exactly what I thought it would be.
"I finally got my baby girl, I can't wait to hold my baby!" And yes, I know that could be perceived as me being paranoid, but trust me it wasn't. She actually continued to talk about my child as hers. She also stated that while she wouldn't push, I can tell she will attempt to boundary stomp. And when I brought up possibly not having any visitors the first month, she was like "but I can come?" And I said, "honestly, I don't even want my own mom visiting until after I've healed." She than proceeded with "well it only takes about two weeks to heal" and I said "well, that may be the case, but I don't want visitors until I'm ready."
Let's just say, I'm excited for our baby girl but I'm dreading how his mom will act after the baby is born. I don't want my first time being a mom being stomped on by her need to have the first time to have a girl. She acts like she's the one giving birth.
Any tips on how to being forward without sounding too restrictive on my feelings on what I want. And making sure that what I want is done without tramping on her feelings.
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We're having a girl, and SO's mom's already attempting to boundary stomp
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