I have some BG on here of my manipulative and boundary stomping GMIL, but I can't find it. it's probably not relative though.
here's some necessary info: we live in a major city, my FOO live 40ish minutes from us and my ILs live 1.5 hours away, in the opposite direction as my FOO. everyone in DH's family lives in the same town, GMIL, AIL, MIL, everyone.
FOO is constantly coming to the city where DH and I live because, like I said, it's the big city. I have 4 younger sisters ages 10-16, so there's always a reason for them to come to town and I usually meet up with them, of course I bring along DH and LO.
the problem is my ILs are CONSTANTLY whining and begging me and DH to bring LO to their house. I hate going there because we stay with MIL and FIL for say, a Friday night and then on Saturday morning FIL and BIL go hunting/fishing/whatever, MIL sleeps till noon, and DH and I sit around the quiet house with LO until GMIL comes over and snatches the baby. then GMIL and MIL try to guilt us into staying an extra night and going to church with them. I refuse to attend their church again for many reasons, but the main reason is DH and I have a church that we don't want to miss. they always get tearful and whiney when we say we don't want to go. they complain they NEVER see us or that GFIL didn't get a chance to come see us, or whatever excuse they can make up. I hate it! not to mention, WE DON'T DO ANYTHING WHEN WE VISIT. if they wanted to plan a big family cookout or something when we visited, I would be happy to drive down, but I don't want to waste precious gas money to drive down there to sit in an empty house while everyone sleep all day and the be guilted when I try to go home. they complain that we ALWAYS see my FOO and that's true, but that's because my FOO come to see us. we rarely drive to visit them and if we do it's because my mom invited us for dinner or to the lake. we never stay the night.
I feel like my ILs think DH and I are like, still in college. that we need to come 'home' every weekend. well, we aren't. I'm sick of this. every week MIL calls and asks if we are coming down for the weekend. I always tell DH to invite her and FIL to town to go out to dinner or a movie with us (like I said, we live in the big city, there is stuff to do here!), but they always have an excuse as to why they can't visit.
oh oh oh! and when we DO visit, the last thing MIL and GMIL ask us is: 'are you coming back down next weekend?' it's crazy! why would we be expected to do that!!?
ugh I'm sorry for the ramble and how long this is. it's 1 am here and I'm wide awake and stewing on this subject because MIL called before we went to bed asking if we are coming down tomorrow -_-
what can I say to these people to make them realize we have a home where we are and we aren't interested in weekend sleepovers anymore??
here's some necessary info: we live in a major city, my FOO live 40ish minutes from us and my ILs live 1.5 hours away, in the opposite direction as my FOO. everyone in DH's family lives in the same town, GMIL, AIL, MIL, everyone.
FOO is constantly coming to the city where DH and I live because, like I said, it's the big city. I have 4 younger sisters ages 10-16, so there's always a reason for them to come to town and I usually meet up with them, of course I bring along DH and LO.
the problem is my ILs are CONSTANTLY whining and begging me and DH to bring LO to their house. I hate going there because we stay with MIL and FIL for say, a Friday night and then on Saturday morning FIL and BIL go hunting/fishing/whatever, MIL sleeps till noon, and DH and I sit around the quiet house with LO until GMIL comes over and snatches the baby. then GMIL and MIL try to guilt us into staying an extra night and going to church with them. I refuse to attend their church again for many reasons, but the main reason is DH and I have a church that we don't want to miss. they always get tearful and whiney when we say we don't want to go. they complain they NEVER see us or that GFIL didn't get a chance to come see us, or whatever excuse they can make up. I hate it! not to mention, WE DON'T DO ANYTHING WHEN WE VISIT. if they wanted to plan a big family cookout or something when we visited, I would be happy to drive down, but I don't want to waste precious gas money to drive down there to sit in an empty house while everyone sleep all day and the be guilted when I try to go home. they complain that we ALWAYS see my FOO and that's true, but that's because my FOO come to see us. we rarely drive to visit them and if we do it's because my mom invited us for dinner or to the lake. we never stay the night.
I feel like my ILs think DH and I are like, still in college. that we need to come 'home' every weekend. well, we aren't. I'm sick of this. every week MIL calls and asks if we are coming down for the weekend. I always tell DH to invite her and FIL to town to go out to dinner or a movie with us (like I said, we live in the big city, there is stuff to do here!), but they always have an excuse as to why they can't visit.
oh oh oh! and when we DO visit, the last thing MIL and GMIL ask us is: 'are you coming back down next weekend?' it's crazy! why would we be expected to do that!!?
ugh I'm sorry for the ramble and how long this is. it's 1 am here and I'm wide awake and stewing on this subject because MIL called before we went to bed asking if we are coming down tomorrow -_-
what can I say to these people to make them realize we have a home where we are and we aren't interested in weekend sleepovers anymore??