Has anyone else with history of abuse in their FOO encountered something like this? DH was talking to his mom today and he was telling her how we were not having ANY visitors at the hosp. when our new LO is born. I am registering as a private patient, mainly because I think CO FOO would show up and I should not be forced to deal with that on top of multiple high risk issues and having a new LO. Anyway...DH's mom doesn't know every detail of the reason for the CO, so I guess I will have to give her the benefit of the doubt. But I am still upset. She KNOWS my FOO physically abused me. She KNOWS they recently indicated they would start spanking our children (two have some special needs). Still, rather than being supportive, she tells DH that we need to "forgive" FOO. Grrrrr!! I CAN forgive them. I really have no problem with that and am not holding onto some kind of hatred over all this. However, that doesn't mean I am going to let my terrified children (esp. those with SN!) be around a FOO that could harm them physically and emotionally.
DH says he needs to have a talk with his mom and explain the situation more clearly. Anyone else have ILs that do not support or at least respect your CO of FOO?