Well, this story is a bit lengthy considering the fact that I've been in this relationship for 6 years (3 years married in). Any who, my husband and I have 2 daughters.. one is 3 and the other is 5 months. The issue I'm having is lack of support from my inlaws... they feel as if they are allowed to dictate what we do with our kids and we are not capable of taking care or making decisions for our kids. When we need help in the important things like if we both have to work and we are in need of a sitter they refuse. They feel that they can buy our kids love and they don't have to visit or spend quality time with them. Now back to the manipulation.. They are currently upset at us for not getting our DD into the school they feel she should be in because of her birthdate and the fact that her pediatrician refuses to give her 4 year old shots until April 2014. They called my husband incompetent and I'm no better. Then they went behind our backs to enroll her in this school that we barely know and its located in a bad neighborhood all because they want their grandchild in school NOW!! I had her in private school but withdrew her once the payments became a bit much for us since I was unable to work with my new baby. They disapproved and let he whole family know.." My grandchild is too smart not to be in school"! I have been sabotaged by them enough! So much resentment and pain that I am determined to get my tubs tied because both times I delivered I never got my wishes fulfilled! I was in hell.. I wanted no one in the birthing room but my DH and I and guess what... My mom, MIL, and all her friends was in there snapping pictures and eating food as if I was an exhibit in some freak show!!! My second birth was the worse.. my MIL actually got mad because I was in pain and had been laboring for hours so she stomped off to get some food and tried taking my husband with her out to eat at a restaurant. (he refused). then she wanted me to wait till my FIL (who's a truck driver) finish his run to have the baby. (clearly impossible) then she grew impatient and left out again because she was complaining the baby was "taking too long to get here". Now the whole time I tried laboring natural because the epidural was not successful with my first birthing and I knew I needed only a supportive atmosphere while trying to have her yet my DH felt I needed to share the experience with everyone.. because of this I caved in and got the epi cause I could no longer labor without it I was loosing will power and becoming stressed out which made the process come to a halt. Well I was still determined to put my foot down and once the pushing came everyone had to leave well they stayed and once she came out The nurses cleaned her and told my DH that they are going to let him take her to the nursery to give her first bath and my MIL got mad and said no she should do it they told her if you are not a parent or wearing a bracelet you are not allowed beyond those doors.. so then she said well can we watch and they said yes so her and her posy of bullies left. IT WAS ALL ABOUT HER!! I cried.. and I STILL CRY TILL THIS DAY.. never again in my life will I have another child.. They all have tarnished my experience and I have grown to regret my husband for not sticking up for me... there's so much more I can say I just don't know how much more of this I can truly take. it makes me sick and sad that this is the family my DH came from..
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