To be brief as I can, when I was 12 weeks I was kicked out of my home with my DH (who did not move with me) by my FIL. I was kicked out because my mom called him a pervert and a child molester (he is neither trust me, maybe a jackass but nothing to that extreme). Alright so I move my stuf to my moms. My kitties and bunnies were not doing well with the transition and neither was I. It was supposed to be only temporary and me and the DH were trying to work things out but she was making it IMPOSSIBLE. He refused to come into her house because of what she said to his father ect ect. They were all acting like children IMHO and forgetting it was the pregnant lady who had to pack her stuff up, be interrogated by the police, and move it 45 min away. So 3 weeks later I finally say enough is enough and I decide to move back to my house with my DH. Noone wanted this to happen except me, but I know what is best for me, my child, and my marriage. The caveat was my FIL said my mom could not come to the house (it is their house and we live here rent free so he has every right) and something about my animals but my DH told him that was going to far and he was going to do what he wanted in what he thought was HIS house.
So when I tell my mom I am moving back she throws what is easily a TANTRUM. Again, now 15 weeks pregnant I packed all my stuff up, moved it by myself (DH wasn't allowed on the property), and just generally upsetting. I knew if she just had behaved and backed off then she would be allowed over in a few weeks time. But nope... a few weeks pass and she comes to my house late at night to inform me she has filed a lawsuit against my MIL (the one who called the police) for filing a false report (which granted she did) and I got really pissed. My mom still thinks I am "ok" with her but I am not. That final action pissed me off well and beyond angry. She keeps tryign to get me to drive her to a place over 4 hours away (while I can barely make a 45 min drive without feeling beyond tired) or go with her to doc appts over 3 hours away. I have nicely declined, she tries to guilt me but I stay strong, I have had enough stress I am sticking close to home.
I worry about my birth. I have made it policy noone but me and the DH will be at the hospital and noone besides me and him will be allowed to see the baby until we are ready to share her with the world. Then goes the baby shower and having my mom and dad see my baby. I do not know what to do, my baby my decision but keeping my overly strong willed mom from coming to the hospital or just popping in is going to be almost impossible. I hate to be the bitch in this but I am about to say: You keep saying his dad is a pervert, you go on with this stupid lawsuit, and you keep acting this way and I do not want you to be around my baby, ever.
My other fear is she will call CPS on me, we live in a rural house with dodgy electrics and a water well that sometimes has anger issues and doesn't work but with multiple children already raised very safely in this house I have no doubts on its ability to be a happy stable home. Sigh. It just stresses me out.