Info-DH's sister has 3 kids. My sister has 3 kids. Six nieces and nephews total. I have 3 kids. Between all the kids, there are 6 b-days between October and December. DH's side is Jewish, and Hannukah is Thursday. I have no relationship with SIL or her kids. She lives on the other side of the country and makes ZERO effort. Anytime we see them is if we go there. (I can add more if needed).
I sent SIL's kids Hannukah presents. She texted DH that she got them. Then she tells him we fogot to send a present for niece2. Ugh. He asks me why I didn't send anything. Well, I forgot. DH fogot to send a present to niece1 a few years ago. SIL tattled to MIL who called DH and asked where the present was. WTF?
I love giving presents. I don't like feeling like I am forced to send a gift. It is not about getting anything in return. However, a thank you or acknowledgment of receipt would be nice. I only know niece1 got her b-day present because SIL mentioned it in the text.
Normally, I would tell DH to handle all presents from now on, but he was the one that forgot a few years ago. That is why I took over. If I gave this back to him, he would never remember to send them anything. So instead of arguing with DH about SIL this time, I went ahead and sent a gift.
How do I handle this without starting an argument? Just give the responsibility back to DH?