So, a quick background story. My dad has bipolar disorder and its only gotten worse with age. He's been divorced 3 times and was verbally and occasionally physically abusive to his wives. He was very mean and vindictive and I haven't seen him in 6 years and he has since moved to another state.
Before I had my son this spring, I asked my mom to email him and tell him I was about to have a baby. I just felt that he should know. When my son was 4 months old my dad emailed asking for pictures. I sent a civil reply with an update about our lives with a few pictures. He responded with a long rambling email about his great single life in Florida to which I didn't respond.
Now 3 months later he's emailed me this: "i was wondering if i could get one of the christmas/santa photos i am sure you will be getting ? if you think i should meet felix-that is completely in your hands." Do y'all think 6 years is long enough? If I agree, should I meet my dad alone first to see if he should even meet my son? I'm already imagining how uncomfortable this reunion would be. He has estranged himself from my sisters and I and even his own brother, my uncle, whom was his last ally. I'm so confused.
My son will melt his heart and this might be good for my dad and make him straighten up or it could end up being a reminder of my we distanced ourrselves from him. Any advice?