what do i do next?

Do i lc, to, or co? is the difference between these three? How do I decide which one is necessary? How do I begin to put one in place?


BG: my foo has always treated me like an outcast as long as I can remember because I'm "different". I've never felt like I fit in even with extended family. The worst of all of them is my mother. She has constantly picked on me, treated me differently, favored my siblings over me (I'm the oldest). She constantly tries to guilt trip me and pit my sisters and me against each other to get the information she wants. She makes everything about herself and always has to have the attention on her. It drives me absolutely nuts! She treats my dad like shit too. As I have gotten older, I've been able to see how she manipulates people and I've tried to back away. Moved out on my own, got a job to support myself, and bought a car. I'm now married and expecting my first child due in march. She has gone grandma crazy and it makes me sick. She has to constantly "one up" everybody. If someone makes a comment about my pregnancy on fb she has to make a better one. If someone buys something for the baby, she has to buy something bigger and brag about it to everyone. Everything she buys has something about grandma on it. All of which has been left at her house. I refuse to take it with me. I know no matter what i do she will never change. I only visit once every other month. I skipped thanksgiving and am seriously considering skipping Xmas as well. What do i need to do next? She sends my stress levels straight through the roof and so far what I'm doing isn't helping... What do I do next and how to I start implementing it? I need to start this before baby arrives or we will have some serious boundary stomping issues and i may kill her! Please give me some advice on what you would do...